If you’re gorgeous and you know it..

[Dancehalldarling]

.. clap your hands 👏 (no I’m joking.)

Nc for this. Those of you that know you’re good looking, when complimented do you agree/acknowledge you know you’re good looking or do you insist you’re not/reverse the compliment?

do you think it’s unreasonable to outright say “I am absolutely beautiful” or hold yourself in high regard?

Wtaf? Saying someone is attractive or gorgeous doesn’t mean you want to fuck them.

what am I reading?

When I was younger I was attractive with a good body and I knew it.
When men gave me compliments they would sometimes be a bit thrown off if I said 'Thank you'
Like they thought I was a bit full of myself.

I just say thank you

You're reading what goes through my head when people have said this to me in the past: embarrassment and annoyance.

Why would you mutter a thanks to someone being genuine? Even if you don’t think highly of yourself there’s no need to be rude in your response.

When I was I was younger when I got a compliment I would say "thank you", I don't get them now but if I did I would do the same.

I don't say anything and look uneasy. it's normally a comment on my body, which is amazing, rather than my looks. I don't enjoy people commenting on or complimenting me.

It's a gracious mutter but I wish they wouldn't. I don't scowl but I do quickly move on to something else.

I have always just said Thankyou, sometimes followed up with a jokey “but you need specsavers” depending on how I’m feeling and who the other person is who complimented me

I've only heard women say it and one that is closer to home, ie our daughter. IMO, as people keep on saying that to her we hear it at every party/wedding we go to - she often tells us that and she is not joking - nothing wrong with it as long as you don't put others down that may not be as gifted as the "beautiful" ones

Our daughter takes it from my mothers side and looks like the double of one of my siblings when they were that age and many others have said that

I usually just say
'Thanks, I love your outfit/make up /hair/shoes/' if i genuinely do and if i don't like any of the above I'll say
'That's so kind, I'm embarrassed now'
Or if i know them well such as friends I say
'Shut up you weirdo' 😃

I say thank you, give a small tinkly laugh and silently congratulate myself on being a stunner.

No one tells me I'm gorgeous anymore but I did get complimented when I was younger. I would just say thanks and then find something to compliment them on later on.

Being gorgeous (I mean pretty/beautiful rather than having a good figure) is just good luck though. It’s not something you’ve earned or worked for. It always seems a weird thing to compliment people on. Like saying they’re tall.

@tillytoodles1

It depends. Some people are naturally beautiful while others have surgical enhancements. Which ones do you mean?

How would you know? Lots of people have enhancements that are not obvious?

Used to be. My reaction would depend on the context of the compliment- in a non-creepy context the polite thing is to say thank you (whether you agree or not)- beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder. Paying a compliment in return is a nice thing to do as well if you can do it with style (not just "you look nice too"). Saying thanks is not the same as saying you agree, we're not in Mean Girls.

Denying it is very awkward for everyone as a lot of people then feel they have to say it again so it's almost like fishing for compliments. Much more polite to smile and say thanks.

I have never agreed or disagreed, and I’ve not heard anyone do that when I’ve complimented them either. Most people just say thank you. Go to a wedding, this happens all the time, people have made an effort and most people are telling each other how lovely they look!

This.

For any compliment.

I really really wouldn't want to know someone who was so full of themselves that they think they are gorgeous. Everybody has faults, whether it be physical or character faults.Being self absorbed and self congratulatory is the biggest fault of all imo.

I mean natural beauty, not someone who's had fillers and other cosmetic tweaks. We'd all be stunning then.

In Western and especially British society, it's considered socially desirable to be slightly self-deprecating or simply appreciative when given a compliement.

For example, if someone says to you "Wow, you're really intelligent!" it's considered polite to say "Well, in some ways" or "Not really but that's kind, thank you!"

It would be considered arrogant and socially awkward to respond "Yes, I really am."

Another example could be "Oh my god, your house is so clean!" A socially acceptable response would be "Well it doesn't always look like this!" or "Yes I cleaned this morning, thank you!". But not "Yes, I am a superior home maker".

People don't like to be friends with people who seem arrogant which is why this strange social convention exists.

Hope that helps :-)

It does when it comes from men and it gets tedious.

I was never interested in what random men thought about what I looked like, so I didn't thank them, as my generation of women were taught to do. It isn't much different to seeing street harassment as a compliment.

If it's another woman saying that you look nice etc, then yes, you thank them. But again it can become as though how you look is the sum total of you. I own mirrors, I knew that I was beautiful.

But we aren’t just talking about men, women compliment each other too. In fact I’d say I get more compliments from women than I do men.

Rejecting someone's compliment is rude!
The kind thing to say is just, Thank you so much, with a gracious smile, and then move on.

Now, there's a lot of subtlety and complexity around whether something is a genuine compliment intended to give pleasure to the receiver without anything being expected in return, or whether it's actually a way of pestering someone. Obviously lots of men compliment women and then get annoyed if they don't get more than a gracious thanks, which is unacceptable but happens all the time.

I used to get embarrassed regardless of who the compliment came from, male or female. I learnt to accept them and now just respond with a “Thank you” and move on.

More tricky to deal with is when people ask how or why. My stock response is “Genetics”.