When did your DDs get their ears pierced?

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I have a one year old DD born in UK where we live.

Dh is from a country where baby girls get their ears pierced pretty much at birth - I think hospitals there even offer to pierce their ears as part of post birth services!!!!

I'm totally against this and so is DH (he's lived many years in UK) its treating baby girls like objects to decorate and not letting them choose if they want it or not. Also could be a choking hazard.

We're visiting family in his country later in the year and one of the aunts is already talking about how she'll pierce babies ears as she's a qualified nurse!!!

I've explained on Facetime that it's not what we do over here and we don't pierce baby girls ears at such a young age etc but don't think the message is getting through. I'll have to be extremely clear when we arrive but it's clearly so ingrained in their way of doing things.

I know I'm not BU to avoid piercing her ears but it's got me thinking about what age is the right age? Baby/ toddler is far too young imo

I was thinking that when DD is old enough to decide for herself - maybe 12? I think i was 10 when i had mine done but I remember I had a friend whose father was very strict and acted like it was the same as getting a tattoo so she wasn't allowed until she was 16.

Agree with the APP approved bit. We are fortunate to have one in our little town and I go to her for all my piercings and new jewlery

I wasn’t allowed at all so had them pierced at 18 when I left home.
I think it is really horrible to pierce baby and toddlers ears and tbh I would say minimum age 16 personally.

My daughter had hers 7 weeks ago, she is 10 and made the decision she wanted it done. I had it done at 8, they went septic so I took them out, again at 13, same thing happened but not as dramatically, I got them done for the last time at 19

I had mine done at 29 haha wish I hadn't bothered tbh

This is exactly what I did
Her birthday is in the May and she had them done as a late birthday present the Monday after they broke up from primary
She'd wanted them done for years
She had them done with a gun-if I'd known then what I know now,I would never have allowed that (everything was fine by sheer luck)
Needles all the way from then on

My DD was nearly 8. I had no issue with her having them done. She was in year 3 and most of the girls in her class had them done about that age. She had it with a gun, to this day I still don’t have an issue with guns for lobes. She’s 18 now with all sorts of piercings. She did her own 2nd piercing in lockdown when she was 14. I wasn’t thrilled with that one

Perfect answer. This is what we have agreed with my daughter (currently 7). Fortunately she is not too bothered and not many of her friends have it done yet anyway. She can decide when she is older.
Piercing babies' ears is chavvy and horrible. A baby girl is gorgeous as she is, she does not need decorating.

Ah, I see my comment could read like that. Her body, her choice would have been our stance for things that really don't matter - like a second set of holes in her lobes in her teens, or hair dye/style as long as school rules followed during term time. I did write in my previous post that I had initially said 18 for further piercings apart from her first ear lobe piercing, and that she did indeed respect that stance, getting her second ear piercings at 20 at university, but that if she had asked, we would have given permission for second ear lobes sooner. She's proven she could look after her first set, so a second ear piercing in her teens definitely her body her choice. Plenty of other things we would have said no to - including alcohol at underage birthday parties at our house, but we allowed an occasional glass of wine or a weak g and t with us from about 16.
She is 22 now, I fully expected to be asked to contribute towards her first tattoo for her 21st birthday, but as yet she remains (to my knowledge) unlinked. Definitely her body her choice now though!

Round here it’s ‘better’ to have them done in primary school because they are allowed to wear earrings to school so can have however long they need to heal rather than having 6 weeks then having to keep taking them out.

My nieces had theirs at 7 and 9. 10 year old niece is having her second lobe piercings next month.

Ds is 10 and would be allowed to have them if he wanted.

I was about 6 or 7 - done at the start of school holidays as couldn't be worn in primary school at all, so had to be done over the holidays in time to be removed for school. No issues with swimming - unsure whether this is new advice about not swimming for a few weeks after they've been done.

I'd been asking for them done since I have about 4 or 5, so had to wait a while so my parents were certain I was sure.

A good age to get them done - have gone for months at a time without earrings in as an adult and haven't had them close, but have friends who've done similar with piercings they got as teens and have closed up within a couple of weeks.
My only issue is they did them one at a time, so I moved slightly when they did the second one in anticipation of the pain, so one is slightly lower than the other, but reasonably confident this could have happened no matter what age I'd been.

I had mine done at about eight or ten years old, my younger sister had them done as a baby, I like baby girls to have their ears pierced I think it looks sweet and makes them look girly, if they decided in later years they didn't want them they could take them out, though I don't see why they would not want them.

I had mine done when I was 4, had my daughters done when they were 2. They went on to have second holes done when they were older. It was just a done thing when we were young x

DD1 had hers done for her Primary 7 prom, so 11 (nearly 12) - she's now 23. DD2 is 20 and doesn't want hers done.

Dd18 has never shown any interest. Dd12 has asked tonight if she can have them. I think I'm ok with that. Tbh I'm surprised she hasn't really asked before.

Work colleague is pointing me in the direction of a proper piercing place.

Age 11

I’m vey much against babies getting their ears pierced, I think it looks horrendous seeing babies with pierced ears, (they didn’t ask for them and had these piercings inflicted on them) believe that there should be a minimum age limit.

dd was 8 when she expressed and interest, we explained that it would nip, she would need to clean her ears etc and she was willing to put the effort in. Dh took her to get them done.

16

Around 3 months old

I think around 12, or whatever age they’re old enough to take care of the wound themselves. Which could be around 12 as younger child would probably forget. So using that ability to be responsible as a guide to whether they’re mature enough to decide, not that I’d resent reminding or helping them if younger.

My 15 yo Dd hasn’t had them done by choice - she just hasn’t wanted to.

I like baby girls to have their ears pierced I think it looks sweet and makes them look girly

I’m sorry but this is awful. You’d inflict a painful wound on a baby because it makes them look sweet and girly?

Why not wait til they could choose to have it done or not, rather than deciding for them? Why should wounding baby girls’ ears be fine - but you wouldn’t do it to a baby boy?

DD was 13. I’d agreed to the previous summer but she went off the idea then back onto it so she had them done one of the first days of the summer holidays at the end of year 8. She had quite a bit of trouble with one of them still bleeding in late October and it’s still sore a lot, almost a year later. I wouldn’t put a baby through that.

I allowed mine to have them when they went to primary school, I think the eldest had them done at 8.

I had mine done at age 2, at the same time as my mum who was 28 and my name who was 52!

It looks absolutely awful when babies/young children have their ears pierced. Wait until they can decide for themselves, and keep them clean themselves (even if with assistance, but they should be able to share that responsibility). I had my first set done at 9 and a second set at 11.

My daughters are 22 and 11 and neither have had them done.

11. Then took them out as she got bored and the holes closed up. Re did them herself at 15. Do not do them until they are old enough to look after them. I think its horrible to see young children with ears pierced they aren't little dolls and they need looking after