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Refusing to sign passport

156 replies

Scoobie2911 · 11/05/2024 18:19

AIBU?
Bit of background: I met my best friend 8 years ago when we both started a new job together. My friend is from South Africa, her hubbie was born in UK but his family moved out to SA when he was a child. My friend and hubbie moved to UK about 10 years ago. We no longer work together and live in different towns but speak every day via Whatsapp. We are so alike and get on so well, we think the same way, have similar life experiences and we tell each other just about everything, she is the sister I never had.
She recently gained her UK citizenship, I supported her in this, gave her a character reference as I have for jobs etc. Now she is applying for a UK passport and sent her application to me to be a counter signatory BUT I had to refuse as I am not on the approved occupation list. My friend basically said we can just say I am one of the approved professionals as they don't check anyway but I said this would be fraud and I simply cannot do this. She has asked me to please post everything back to her and hasn't spoken to me since. Am I being unreasonable in refusing to commit fraud and signing her passport application?

OP posts:
Eggmoobean · 18/05/2024 19:06

You have to be a qualified professional it’s says on the government website. Send her the link to that and send the stuff back.

Scoobie2911 · 18/05/2024 20:16

Thanks for all your responses.
Quick update, I didn't sign in the end and posted everything back to her as requested. She hasn't spoken to me since so I think that says it all ...

OP posts:
DappledThings · 18/05/2024 20:18

Scoobie2911 · 18/05/2024 20:16

Thanks for all your responses.
Quick update, I didn't sign in the end and posted everything back to her as requested. She hasn't spoken to me since so I think that says it all ...

Despite plenty of posters saying it was fine to do so as long as you didn't lie about your job title? Why not? Nothing wrong with telling her you don't think you'll be accepted but happy to try by completing it honestly. Seems unnecessarily unhelpful just to refuse.

MonsteraMama · 18/05/2024 20:24

Yeah sorry OP, as pp said that just sounds unnecessarily unhelpful and I'd be fucked off with you too if you were my friend. There was zero reason for you not to sign it (being honest about everything of course), if you weren't eligible they'd have just told her to find someone else.

OneTC · 20/05/2024 18:44

Scoobie2911 · 18/05/2024 20:16

Thanks for all your responses.
Quick update, I didn't sign in the end and posted everything back to her as requested. She hasn't spoken to me since so I think that says it all ...

Yeah I wouldn't bother with you either

Zimunya · 21/05/2024 11:18

I think the friend broke the bonds of friendship first by suggesting that the OP lie on an official document ("My friend basically said we can just say I am one of the approved professionals as they don't check anyway but I said this would be fraud")

I think the OP is probaby better off without such "friends" in her life.

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