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Original poster

Not to want to pay for a taxi?

27 replies

malovitt · 03/04/2008 13:39

I live in London and hate paying for taxis after a night out if at all possible. Happy to go on public transport, late tubes and night buses.

Went out last night with a group of friends, one of whom lives near to me. We were in a bar, it got to about 12.30/12.45 and we started saying our goodbyes. Friend said she was a bit tired (not drunk - she had only had a couple of drinks) and would I like to share a cab?

I said no, there were plenty of people about and I was happy to go on the bus as I had a bus pass and it wouldn't cost me anything extra. She muttered for a bit and then joined me on the bus. I got off two stops before her and she sent me a text saying she was home ok.

Her husband has just phoned me, calling me really selfish for putting her 'at risk' by not sharing a cab. He was horrible! Total cab fare would have been around £25/£30.

What do you think?

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coastalmum · 03/04/2008 13:45

I agree with you. Nothing wrong with public transport, in fact had more trouble in mini cabs than on public transport myself. Prehaps your friend could try being more grown up and planning how she intends to get home earlier in the evening next time.

wheresthehamster · 03/04/2008 13:45

He's probably cross that she didn't phone him and ask him to meet her off the bus.

Nothing to do with you. I'm sure if she had offered to pay for the whole thing you wouldn't have minded. Don't people arrange home time arrangements before they go out anyway?

mumto2daughters · 03/04/2008 13:49

YANBU, I always get public transport home after a night out.

Harrybee · 03/04/2008 13:49

If her husband was that worried he should come to pick her up. God men can be such s**t bags at times. What gives him the right to call you anyway, surley your friend should have spoken up in the first place.

I would have dont the same as you, so dont worry its your friend that should feel bad/embarrassed that her DH called you to have a moan!

oranges · 03/04/2008 13:53

I'd call him selfish for not picking her up, and then hang up.

Iklboo · 03/04/2008 13:55

I suppose "kiss my arse dickwad" would not be diplomatic?

cory · 03/04/2008 13:55

If she was that concerned about public transport, couldn't she take a cab on her own? Was it really your job to help her finance it?

Original poster
malovitt · 03/04/2008 13:55

They have small kids so he couldn't have come to collect her and she was having one of her rare nights out. I'm sure she will be furious when she finds out what he's done.

Time and time again, though, I've been forced to get in cabs to accompany friends who have had too much to drink and have ended up paying the fare, when I would otherwise have gone on the bus. I'm determined that it's not going to happen anymore.

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SlartyBartFast · 03/04/2008 13:58

was she scared to go on the bus?
i don't think i woudl be but some people are?

Original poster
malovitt · 03/04/2008 14:03

No, not scared of the bus - she wanted to get home quickly so she could sleep.

Sorry, the extra 20 mins that it takes on the bus is not worth paying £30 for IMO.

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SlartyBartFast · 03/04/2008 14:05

if she was that bothered she should have taken the taxi on her own.
tut.

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2008 14:06

she's a grown woman not a child
if she wasn't at any more risk than usual why is she your responsibility?

beaniesteve · 03/04/2008 14:07

If she really thought she was a t risk she should have got a taxi on her own.

hifi · 03/04/2008 14:09

if he was so bothered he should have ensured she had enough cash to pay for it herself, not rely on someone else.

SlartyBartFast · 03/04/2008 14:09

you coudl tell him you can't afford it!
that might embarrass him

doggiesayswoof · 03/04/2008 14:10

eek I smell a controlling husband...

if he is unhappy with her being on public transport at that time, then it's up to them to sort it our between them - not your responsibility.

YANBU at all.

hanaflower · 03/04/2008 14:11

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hifi · 03/04/2008 14:13

he probably gave her a bollocking for using public transport and she would have probably said malovitt wouldnt shareso you get the blame. i personally dont get public transport home after 11pm but would never exoect anyone to pay half.

bergentulip · 03/04/2008 14:19

YANBU at all! Strange man. Tell her what her hubbie did, get it into conversation somehow, send him to the dog house....

What would she have done if you were not there, and there was noone who lived in the same direction? Teleported her way home? Ugh, honestly.

My DH would probably be appalled if I got a taxi, and not the bus (!) Why waste the money if there is a perfectly good, regular bus service that takes you in the same direction?

Chequers · 03/04/2008 14:44

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Chluro · 03/04/2008 14:54

YANBU!

Is she a bit precious about public transport, did she have a seat sanitiser in her handbag to use before she sat down?

cheesesarnie · 03/04/2008 14:58

yanbu.i assume shes a grown up who can mke decisions for herself-maybe she should remind her husband of that!

jesuswhatnext · 03/04/2008 16:33

i would be FURIOUS if my dh did that, i'm a grown woman, i can get myself home, so is your friend!!!

so no yanbu

TheFallenMadonna · 03/04/2008 16:35

He phoned you. Blimey. Does she know?

coppertop · 03/04/2008 16:37

Is her dh by any chance the reason why she rarely has a night out?

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