I have a one year old and work part time. I take Dd to see my mum one day a week, they have around 3-4 hours together. Sometimes we also meet on another day for a walk or to a cafe, but often it’s just the one morning a week that is guaranteed.
My mum will go away with my dad whenever she feels like and at a moment’s notice. They are both retired. I fully support them doing this and have never once questioned it.
The issue… my mum will literally ask every day or so when she’s next seeing dd. I repeat that it will be Wednesday as usual. She will then say (in front of dd usually as I leave on a Wednesday), that I won’t bring dd back over so ‘sorry dd but your mummy won’t bring you back.’
this then continues and most weekends I’m asked what I’m doing, can I come over etc. When I snap and say ive told her I can’t, she will then say sorry and it stops for a couple of days but inevitably starts up again.
I feel like I have to explain myself all the time. I have been clear and said one day a week I am always committed to, but that doesn’t seem enough. I am being dramatic for feeling really annoyed about this? Is it usual for grandparents to do this?
We live quite close by but I just want some bloody privacy and not to have to explain what I’m doing each day! Sometimes I just want to levee the house with dd and not have to meet anyone else or co ordinate with anyone else. Sometimes I want to decide what I feel like doing on the day. AIBU to think a fixed one day a week is pretty good and I should be left alone a bit the rest of the week to do what I want with DD?
she’s not got memory issues etc.