To think i shouldn’t have to pay for her therapy l!?

[Auntieterrible]

Long story short!!
I separated from my husband last year. My sil (exh’s) sister had a dad and she has found our separation really hard to come to terms with (she is 10) none of friends parents are separated, so this has blown her mind I suppose with how relationships can change. She is now an anxious mess about the possibility of her own parents separating. Dsil is at the end of her thether and is worried. She blames me (because I left the marriage) and she has messaged me saying dn needs therapy of some sort and I should be paying as it’s all my fault! I gave my own dc to look after, I have money for their therapy as and when they need it (not needed as of yet) Aibu to think DN’s struggle of not my responsibility? Please go easy.

She knows about the Tooth Fairy and Father Christmas, right?

That girl sounds very sheltered. Her therapy needs, however, are not your responsibility. Obviously. Ex-SIL needs to get a serious grip.

She is a CF. Does she seriously think you should stay in a miserable relationship so a kid who isn't even related to you doesn't feel upset?
Tell her to shove it where the sun don't shine!!

Just tell her that her request is absolutely ridiculous and you won't be.

I would write something kind to the kid, in a card or a letter. Ignore her mother's request completely, like you never even got it.

Tell her she needs to pay for your therapy because you're so stressed out dealing with her.

Therapy? Bwhahahaha Fuck me how is this kid going to make it through life if she can’t deal with her aunt and uncle splitting up?

Most kids don’t even have therapy when their own parents split up.

It's your SIL fault that she hasn't brought up her daughter to feel secure despite things going on in the world around her.
Does the same apply to other'baq things'? SO someone dies - is she naturally going to die too? War in one country? Will that happen here too?
Why should HER parents separate just because another couple has.
Sounds like she has been babied and not taught about the reality of life. Some couples separate, some don't. It happens. Many kids in her school will have separated parents. Sorry but I have little time for pre-teen drama queens. They are needier than toddlers.

Am I losing my mind? How is anyone else understanding this post?

Sounds like the little girl has had a life lesson.

That is so ridiculous. The girl had to learn at some point that couples separate and its sad for her but her Mum should be able to support her if needed. Have never heard of anyone needing therapy for an aunt and uncle!

Your sil is just trying to pass blame

Of course you are not responsible for paying for therapy to deal with your SIL's parenting failures. She should be working on her child's resilience, providing appropriate reassurance to the child about the stability of her own family life, and helping her to put other people's ordinary life events into perspective. Not demanding that you pay for a counsellor!

Supporting children to deal with the normal ups and downs of life is part of a parent's job. There is no need to pathologise everything and your ex's niece certainly doesn't need a counsellor simply because you left her uncle. She might need a counsellor if there are other underlying problems with her mental health that have led her to blow this event out of all proportion, but you are in no way responsible for these.

Maybe she should tell the GP, and ask for a psychiatrist or CAMHS referral if the child is so disturbed. What a ridiculous request.
It's just her way of trying to punish you for splitting with her brother presumably. Well tough, it's not going to work and her emotional blackmail will be damaging her child.

This won’t meet threshold for CAMHS