To find that going to the doctors doesn't resolve the issue

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I've recently had an appointment and it's got me thinking that I always feel fobbed off ( I feel a bit fobbed off with this one too)and they never solve the issue.

Once I had been referred for a scan , and when I spoke to a clinician for a follow up, I was told the nurse who referred me was working their notice and was referring everyone , and they wouldn't be doing anything further.

The only time I've ever felt like my issues have been taken seriously, and dealt with was in pregnancy, when my pre-eclampsia showed up in my ante- natal check up.

Some people make appointments and it seems like the health care professionals bend over backwards to help them and I feel dismissed. And these are about physical things , that can be seen . I dread to think what mental health would be like.

Does anyone else find this happens to them?

I've also noticed the way the doctors speak. At a gp appointment, they will state what the issue is , and that this treatment will sort. They are so convinced. And then so are we because they should know better.

In hospital, when my dm was in with cancer, , the way the doctors and spoke was different. They would say they ' didn't anticipate any problems/ any further treatment ' .

I dont trust what the gp says.

DH regularly gets "ah, I see you're a lawyer, we won't take any chances". So much fkr NHS equality.

I feel bad, as so many people struggle to get HRT and I just literally asked once and that was that! But now everything is down to my age when I go in, and instead of being pleased that my GP acknowledged it, I'm ruing the day it was mentioned. I understand the wide and weird range of things that menopause can do, but it can't be the cause of everything!

I feel like I've got no chance of getting hrt. I'm going down the birth control route for now , and they spoke ' at ' me , rather than to.

The young doctors do seem to have a better manner with their patients. We saw a registrar, who was temporarily at our surgery for my dc and she was lovely.

Perhaps gps become disillusioned with dealing with minor and non deadly ailments and issues rather than saving lives. Or perhaps the bureaucracy gets to them .

And like every public facing role, there are gps and health centre employees who don't have the personality type to be working with the public.

I have to be honest, my GP is brilliant. I've been depressed recently and I've actually felt like he couldn't have done enough. I think it helps that I come from a medical family but so have learnt what to say. I think the other point is asking yourself what you want the GP to do and the expectations. As a PP said, you can't expect to be referred to a gastroscopy for a one-off stomach pain. They have to show that they've taken appropriate steps and followed procedures.