To labour in my nightdress

[Coolsummer25]

I’m due a baby girl late July. I’m a very private person so would like to labour in a nightdress and with my knickers on. Dh thinks I’m being ridiculous and says he’s never heard of woman doing labour this way and that I will be too hot etc.

Easier said than done I know, but I wouldn't get too hett up on it until the big day arrives, and just know in your mind what you'll be comfortable with... obviously whilst ignoring your partner! 🙂

Chances are you'll be in so much pain you won't know what your name is, let alone if you're knickers are on or off, or complications will arise and it'll all be thrown wildly out of your control.

Just chill, stick to your guns and silently acknowledge his stupidity for trying to get involved in an area that is nothing to do with him 😁

That isn't what I said he should do though...read it again. I said he should chat about his worries with his sisters (it's fine to seek out support from family if you've gone barmy enough to think the hospital should whack in a catheter upon arrival). He shouldn't be raising these anxieties with the woman giving birth or offloading on her due to his horror birth story research. That isn't fair.

Who gives a rat's arse about his sister? OP can tell her DH to keep those suggestions to himself too, and yes, stop disclosing information about OP's birthplan. My main point was about OP's DH. OP said he has been doing a lot of research into awful birth stories and stresses at anything and everything concerning the baby.

Wear whatever you want, but at some point your knickers will come off... probably much before baby's crowning! Just after arriving at the labour room, I stood up and my waters "tumbled out", all over my legs and the floor. Bye-bye knickers. It's better not to have any fast and hard expectations because there are so many variables. Baby was also monitored with something attached to the head inside me.

IMO all this specialised labour clothing is a money scam. I wore my nightie, changed to hospital gown for epidural, then post-labour wore my usual jimjams and just lifted the t-shirt to feed baby. After pooing on a bed in front of lots of people, I don't mind if someone catches sight of me feeding baby.

Wearing a nightdress is absolutely fine...I wore the same nightdress to give birth to 3/4 of my children (the one came so fast I was still almost fully dressed!).

Re: knickers: no reason you couldn't keep them on if you wanted but there will almost certainly be lots of bodily fluid (show, amniotic fluid etc) long before baby's head is crowning and to be honest, they just get uncomfortable and in the way, and you'll probably feel different about that closer to it. However, it's nothing to do with your partner at all!!

I wore a cotton t-shirt dress with no knickers. I actually showered in maternity triage because I felt dirty from my water breaking. I was 0cm and then 10cm in 28 minutes. It's better to have your pants off in case you progress quicker than expected.

On the other hand, my sister had her baby in maternity triage, her pants were on (she was told to dress to go to the labour ward) and offered to only element of control to the proceedings…

Do you really want to 💩 in your knickers @Coolsummer25

OK, tell DH he can take all the drugs offered to you 😂😂 catheters are usually post birth when you can't wee!

Bless him, his hearts in the right place but he's been reading too many birth horror stories on reddit

Reading this thread has been fascinating, things do seem to better than when I gave birth many years ago. I was made to wear a hospital gown, no knickers allowed. I had a vile midwife who was verbally abusive, told me I was "silly and stupid" "fussing about nothing" when I was fully dilated and starting to push, told me to "Stop that silly noise" when I was sobbing in pain and fear, the birth was a messed up nightmare that left me with PTSD and I had therapy for it many years later. It would seem that in the main that women are listened to and respected a fair bit more, I never had another baby due to the way I was treated in labour. It mentally scarred me

I wore a long t shirt first time and second was in a pool but I still wore a long t shirt. Im
quote shy about my body so wouldn’t have wanted to be naked!!