Can't do this much longer

[Someonehelpmeagain]

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I'm in an abusive relationship, making plans to get out but my god its so hard. I am struggling so much today.

Does anyone have any tips on how to survive?

I know I'll be OK once he's gone but I'm having to get my ducks together so need to stay for now.

Incase it makes any difference its co ercive control and financial abuse.

A non-mol will work just as well. They are heard in court on an emergency basis, and when granted, he will have to leave.

The last incident has to be within 14 days, coercive control and financial abuse are ongoing, do a fresh report to the police and you've met the threshold.

You can also get Legal Aid for a non-mol. My firm does it. Ring around. You do NOT have to stay in this until December.

It's a letter before action.

Dear Mr Wankstain.

The relationship between us is over.

You have no rights over my home.

You have 12 days to secure alternative accommodation. Otherwise, I will seek further legal advice/make an application to court. (Use whichever you prefer.)

The last part is key. It puts him on notice that you will go to court, and it lets the court see that you've given him an opportunity to leave before taking action.

Thank you . I was going on previous advice but I think i need to look at moving it along

This is crazy, this world.
Sorry.
A male abuser in MY house, and me not being able or scared to get him out?
🤬
I'm not being smug or naive, too old for that.
Would never allow a man into my living space,
when that time comes.
Glad the OP is in contact with Women's Aid,
although I'm not savvy regarding this stuff.
All the best.
💝

OP has said further through that she rents so advice is correct.

For anyone Still following blue lights are on their way.

Are you ok? Safe? Hurt? Hang in there.

Hope you are OK 💗

Please update when you can so we know you’re safe.
did you call the police? Well done 👏🏻

Sorry. Been dealing with police making statements etc. He's been arrested, I'm safe for tonight. Thanks. I'll deal with today after a hopeful but of sleep

So glad you're safe. Apologies I can't advise further - others have - but please ensure you maintain the current path. X

Hope you're ok.

Hopefully he stays away.

Hopefully you can get an emergency non-mol and occupation order tomorrow.

Get the locks changed today, have you someone that can help you do that?

I'm waiting om police to advise bail conditions, yes, I have someone to change the locks

At this point I would get them changed anyway as I would be worried that regardless of bail conditions he will try and force entry.

Was he violent or aggressive at all to lead to his arrest?

OP you are amazing

And much stronger than you realise

I wish I could give you a big hug xxxxxxx

What a piece of shit

I reported this once years ago got told at least he doesn't batter you and sounds like a relationships breakdown. I also had SS who said it's a private matter and they were not concerned so go to court. It's not that easy. It's hell actually.you wouldn't believe how hard it is and if it goes to court, guarantee he will more rights than should be allowed. Can't say more as don't want to out but it's a minefield.

Oh I was threatened too!! Can't say what he threatened but they were not concerned.

I've just seen he has beens arrested, glad things have changed in the last few years!

How are you @Someonehelpmeagain ?

He was at least arrested but NFA. I'm still considering my options in regards to non molestation and contact etc .

Is it possible for you to rent somewhere else? Without him?

Im council so can be moved as a DV priority but it seems a tad early to start makong any big decisions