He said I don't appreciate him for this reason...

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We have been seeing eachother on and off for a few years. We always end up back together at some point and I know I should probably end things altogether. Anyway when we were messaging he askd me to send him a photo. I didn't send it because I had not seen him for a while and I kinda thought he didn't deserve it at that point because I felt that he had not put much effort into us lately.

Anyway a few weeks later I messaged him and then sent a photo (not showing my face as you can never truly know what they could do with your photo). He didn't reply to my message so I then quickly deleted the photo before he had seen it as it just didn't feel right iykwim.

Since I deleted the photo ever other message is "resend the photo". I have not and he has been very off with me and saying that I don't"appreciate him".

Can I have your thoughts please. How would you respond? Deal with it?

I would block him.

He sounds appalling. What on earth is there to 'appreciate' in his behaviour?

Block him.

"no I don't appreciate you, you're a dick"

Blocked 🚫

People managed for millennia without sending nudes to each other. And considering what men frequently do with these, I wouldn't.

Just dump the whiney nobber.

You should make a commitment to yourself that you don’t cheapen yourself by sending photos to literal wankers. You say yourself you should break off with him completely. You’ve got a slither of self esteem because you deleted it. Get him out of the picture and give that slither space to grow.

I’m not against a bit of homemade porn - but FGS keep it for someone who actually likes and respects you.

Block him, you are little more that wank fodder for him.

This doesn't sound like much of a relationship tbh. Very transactional on both sides - weighing up who deserves what and who appreciates whom. Why on earth would you feel you needed to (reluctantly) send nude pictures to a man like this?

Dump him

He sounds awful OP
I wouldn't want any more to do him
Get rid then block.

So you can only have access and the ability to communicate with him, if first you send him a pic for him to wank over?

What in the ever loving fuck.

In the nicest way. Yes you need to lose him and find your self-respect.

I have not sent him the photo. I think he is trying to manipulate me into sending it. He is being off and saying I don't appreciate blah blah.

Urgh, why would you ever think about sending a nude to a man you don't trust?? Think about that.

But just dump him and block him, the whiney twat.

Who is this guy? Your boyfriend or just some random?! I mean, either way it's unacceptable. But why would you even appreciate someone who you're not actually in a proper relationship with? What does on/off mean in reality?

Is this what passes for romance these days? I'm old but wtaf??
Please block him forever, he sounds revolting.

Just stop replying and block him.

Jesus. Find some self respect and dump him. You're just wank fodder to him.

Stop sending nudes

Does he have any redeeming features?

Just drop him like a hot potato and block him.

He's total trash.

Why have you accepted that you’re just wank fodder?

I think it's time to stop pondering the situation and the entire relationship to be honest.

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

@StillYourFavouriteRegret I find it quite amusing actually 😅

Do you? Being treated like shit by an absolute bellend is funny to you?

In the nicest possible way, if he was attracted to you then you wouldn’t be in this dilemma.