At the risk of being flamed, I wouldn’t get too wound up by that sort of thing. We’re far too concerned with the language people use. Whether or not someone is PC doesn’t really bother me. What really counts is the heart. I’d much prefer some old guy who said “chap in my regiment was a poof…never turned my back on him in the showers, haha…still, we all loved Johnny, and any one of us would have stood by him if he’d been attacked in a pub.” OK, it’s unpleasant, old school language, but I much prefer people who are not PC but are kind-hearted to people who are PC but just pretend to care because they think it makes them look good. I don’t judge people on what they say, or even on what they do, but on what they are. It takes time, but after a while you get a sense of someone’s ‘soul’ or character. And that’s what counts.
My brother votes Reform and dislikes mass immigration. He will often say things like “it’s boatloads of young men. I don’t believe they’re refugees at all” etc. But I know him. I know that if he was confronted, face to face, with a young girl who’d fled Afghanistan and ended up sleeping in his local park, he would do anything to help her. His heart is good. He’s kind and honourable. I can think of someone else, however, who reads the Guardian and walks round with a sulky, holier than thou attitude, but is vile. She hasn’t an ounce of genuine sympathy for anyone. If some old guy in her street was widowed and alone, it wouldn’t occur to her to pop round and cook him a meal. She wouldn’t give a shit. Her ‘goodness’ is all a pose.
Bertrand Russell, the philosopher, said that his grandmother (a puritanical Victorian) refused to believe that someone who swore could still be a good man. We seem to be returning to the same kind of Puritanism. But ours is a kind of metropolitan liberal Puritanism - use the correct PC language and express the correct PC views or you can’t be a good person. To some extent you have to tolerate intolerance. It’s the price we pay for freedom. And you have to tolerate the fact that not everyone likes every other group of human beings. We all have prejudices and dislikes. It would be very strange if we didn’t.