Skipping the grissly details, I had an ill advised night with someone I know well a while back (both single). We agreed to not to do it again and largely cut contact but sometimes it’s unavoidable. Got a bad case of limerence and some therapy. I'm quite good at locking my feelings up but still get the lovesick teen feelings and feel stupid. The problem is we both seem to have the same feelings and that makes it harder.
To be clear we've not done anything sexual but when we have seen eachother (unavoidable) have had far too lingering hugs goodbye and (again) ill advised handholding. I know how ridiculous this all sounds! I'm not 13 but I feel like I'm acting like it. He's told me he loves me more than once and that he wants us to be together but we both understand circumstances mean that's not a great idea. Am I right in thinking we both have limerence? That that's actual the biggest red flag and not the sign of some great love I'm denying myself? Sorry if this is muddled. My brain is too!