To message neighbour?

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I've lived where I have for the past 2 years and recently a guy has moved into a flat underneath me.He seems single and the other day,passed me his phone number in the hallway.At first,I was a bit shocked and didn't think to do anything,however,we both appear single,why do I feel like this is a mistake ready to happen? He seems lovely,is fit and very polite,is it just too close for comfort if things go wrong?

No one is jealous!

I thought he was lovely and really fit? You keep getting caught telling Porkies Op 😂

He is younger and has a fit body but I would say that I was more attractive tbh have since found out he is 3 yrs younger than me which is great tbh.We have fallen into the pattern of having sex 3 times a week or so and it's really good so am I being a a hole?

20 minutes?? Hardly worth the angst!

Don't shit where you eat...
In the way of men, he could have any number of behavioural problems and you can't even lock him out of the building!

Well it was a few weeks back when he gave me his number,I gave him mine a few days later and since then,we've been texting and hooking up a couple of times a week.It is relaxed,no-commitment sex and so far is working out fine.We are both clear that it is just sex and we have no other ties.Tbh it gives me something to look forward to and the sex is good plus we don't bother each other unless we are looking to meet up so I don't regret anything so far.

3yrs younger?!! I think it needs to be at least 10 for a younger man surely!!

Think there's 5 years between us but I have always gone with men at least 4/5 years older so to me it feels young.

Go for it, I think if everyone took advice on here as to when it was OK to date/ shag/ have a relationship no one would ever get off with anyone ever

It’s exactly the kind of thing I’d have done 30 years ago, that’s why I know it’s a bad idea

My comment was nothing to do with the shagging. my view is sex is a natural part of life and as long as everyone and everything is consensual then go to town!

It was to do with the fact that choosing someone who literally lives next door sounds great and convenient if it works and everything stays easy but if that someone turns out to be a weirdo or develops feelings then gets clingy and annoying or worse creepy and stalkery or turns out to be an abusive arsehole it means your stuck with it. unless you up stick and move!

im glad it worked out though for you.

Thanks I don't think either of us want more than sex so fingers crossed it will work out well x

So far,it's been really good.We hook up once/twice a week but keep our distance at other times so it doesn't feel suffocating.We both get a physical release and a bit of fun,but it doesn't impact our everyday lives,so tbh I'm really glad I went for it.