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To message neighbour?

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:34

I've lived where I have for the past 2 years and recently a guy has moved into a flat underneath me.He seems single and the other day,passed me his phone number in the hallway.At first,I was a bit shocked and didn't think to do anything,however,we both appear single,why do I feel like this is a mistake ready to happen? He seems lovely,is fit and very polite,is it just too close for comfort if things go wrong?

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 05/05/2024 00:41

Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:45

No,he passed me his number and made it obvious to call him when I was bored and fancied a bit.Is it wrong,am I overthrowing the potential problems?

Classy guy.

Can't imagine why he might be single?

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 05/05/2024 06:48

EEwww no way, this is where you live and should be your safe space, too close for comfort. Just keep it to hi and bye.

ThreeWheelsGood · 05/05/2024 06:53

You do know you don't have to sleep with everyone who gives you their phone number?

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Possomoppossum · 05/05/2024 16:36

Maybe I just need to give my head a wobble and keep my distance.

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Shiningout · 05/05/2024 16:41

Tbh I don't think it's usual behaviour for a bloke to just pass his number to a neighbour hinting about wanting a shag, just sounds a bit shady to me. I wouldn't, there's plenty of blokes Out there looking for a casual set up, you don't know the guy and he could turn into a right arse if it all goes tits up

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 21:53

So basically,I did message him and made it clear that we both only wanted a very casual hook up based thing.I have my son with me all the time and he has his daughter on a 50/50 split.Slept with him a couple of times last week with plans to meet with him again on Monday.Probably unwise but at the minute,it might suit us both.

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StormingNorman · 10/05/2024 21:58

Don’t shit on your own doorstep. This could get very complicated.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 21:59

He is probably 10 years younger than me and it's the ego boost I maybe need right now

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:00

But what's the worst that could happen?

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TastelessMiserySand · 10/05/2024 22:02

Good for you OP! Enjoy!

ZipZapZoom · 10/05/2024 22:03

I can't believe you went through with it. You have to know this is stupid and going to end poorly.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:06

If we both know the score to start with and know when to keep our distance,does it have to be such a wrong thing to do? We are both single with kids and only meeting up when it's appropriate so is it wrong?

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:08

Neither of us have any partner to answer to and it's just scratching a need,is that wrong?

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slaggybumbum · 10/05/2024 22:10

Is this what life is like these days?

Do these liaisons involve the full menu of sexual activities?

I would be the first to agree, I’ve led a very secluded life and FWB have come along far too late for me.

BettyWont · 10/05/2024 22:12

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:08

Neither of us have any partner to answer to and it's just scratching a need,is that wrong?

If that's all it is, why not scratch it somewhere else?

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:13

Tbh I was with my last partner for 20 years and never strayed.Things have gone pear shaped,I'm with my boy at all times and this seems like a harmless situation?

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ZipZapZoom · 10/05/2024 22:15

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:06

If we both know the score to start with and know when to keep our distance,does it have to be such a wrong thing to do? We are both single with kids and only meeting up when it's appropriate so is it wrong?

What happens when it's no longer all good, you decide maybe you no longer want this set up or you find someone you actually want to date and he potentially turns nasty meaning your home is now somewhere you worry about being because you will bump into him and 10 year old could end up caught in the middle.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:15

I have my boy with me 24/7,he doesn't need to know if I disappear anywhre@BettyWont plus it's on my doorstep?

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TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyHusband · 10/05/2024 22:16

Don't shit on your own doorstep.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/05/2024 22:16

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:00

But what's the worst that could happen?

Are you happy for him to give his phone number to other women that he fancies a bit with ?

Isn't he worried that you could turn into mad stalker ?
Suggest you watch "Baby Reindeer" together and see if he blanches .....

BakedTattie · 10/05/2024 22:18

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/05/2024 22:16

Are you happy for him to give his phone number to other women that he fancies a bit with ?

Isn't he worried that you could turn into mad stalker ?
Suggest you watch "Baby Reindeer" together and see if he blanches .....

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What an unbelievably massive leap to assume 😂😂

BakedTattie · 10/05/2024 22:19

ThreeWheelsGood · 05/05/2024 06:53

You do know you don't have to sleep with everyone who gives you their phone number?

She can if she wants to

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:20

I couldn't care less what he does when I'm not with him,with all due respect he may be younger but I'm a lot better looking

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:24

Not being awful but if he wasn't available and younger,I wouldn't even bother.Its not me punching,it's him.

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ConsistentlyInconsistant · 10/05/2024 22:27

Are you shagging him with your son in the next room? Honestly you don't know this guy and you're bringing him into your son's home. I think that's highly irresponsible.