Anybody else dislike football.

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I know iabu so please don't tell me so. But I'm struggling with my husbands love of watching football. I know its really popular but I just hate the mob mentality around watching it. I'm also a bit envious that he has this passion and that he can literally talk to anyone anywhere. We are currently abroad and there is a big match on that is shown in most bars, we have arranged to meet his friends and it will be all about the football, even the wives don't seem to mind it. I feel very out of it. Does anyone else feel the same?

me.
I made sure dh hated football before dating him. lol

Me. I can’t understand what the appeal is, it’s slow, the players are pathetic - falling over if anyone goes near them, the level of violence towards other fans which means that they have to be kept separate, the fact that domestic violence increases after a game. Everything.

Leave him to it. Take yourself off somewhere else and do something you enjoy.

Glad I'm not the only one.

Completely agree.

The thing is he will then be drunk and then the days wasted.

Totally agree with all posters, cannot bear it. Ex h was a fan and I couldn’t bear being in the same room as him while it was on, he’d throw himself on the floor if his team scored. Pathetic!

Just go and do your own thing? Would be not be drunk if you stayed with him and you would be bored out of your mind? It's one day.

Have zero interest in football.

The thing is he will then be drunk and then the days wasted.

The day will be wasted if you wait around whilst he watches football and drinks. It won't be wasted if you go off and do your own thing.

even the commentary sets my teeth on edge. But my husband loves football so I leave him to it. I really hate the singing and the shouting of the supporters . I would just let him get on with it and go and enjoy yourself doing something else

That's what I did too. Can't see the appeal of some bloke kicking a ball around and spitting.

I loathe football and could never have contemplated a relationship with anyone even remotely interested in it.

However, your last post makes me wonder if there are other issues in your marriage; football definitely seems to encourage heavy drinkers, but it's not a given by any means.

Maybe the drinking is the problem, not the football? My dad is a season ticket holder, goes on supporters bus etc but does not drink so is always there for family stuff in the evening

I have no interest and the older I get I don’t even fake it anymore. We do hospitality at work and I use every excuse there is not to go. Bores me to tears and it’s a total waste on me. “Oh you’ll enjoy it”. No I won’t.

His day is wasted. Not yours.

Me!!

My ds is the same, absolutely obsessed, it has been his life since he was 15 despite us never showing any interest.
Last summer he was verbally offered his dream job with his football team who were at that point still premier league. He was understandably over the moon and had worked so hard for it putting in 80/90 hour weeks with another team for a pittance. They then got relegated, and kept him holding on for three months telling him HR would be in touch soon. The job never materialized, he was gutted. It is horrible to see and I will never forgive that club . Ridiculously he remains loyal to them, renewed his season ticket, follows them all over the country. Unbelievable really how passionate he is, it's his whole life !
They are now going back into the Premier league ( this post is probably very outing regarding which club this is ! ). If they turned round and offered him the job again now no doubt he would take it and give up the well paid job he managed to secure elsewhere ! football does strange things to people.

If he loves it and you dont like it you will have to try to minimise its impact on your life somehow. I sympathise with you as it seems to take over with all the noise and drama surrounding it and that’s before the insane amount of money involved which makes me want to vomit

The drinking isn't an issue, it's just were on holiday everyone's in a good mood and the drinks ate flowing, if I don't go ill look like a real misery guts and then ill have a go at him for being drunk when I'm sober.

Loathe it. Even the village team I see in passing are a bunch of oafish prima donnas. And the language from the players is utterly disgusting, with young families watching. The youth teams are almost as bad. Thankfully DH prefers rugby.

It used to be confined largely to Saturday afternoon. Now they spread it out over every available surface so it consumes the entire weekend and most of the weekday evenings too. It must be lovely to have a pastime that's covered so generously in the media. But not if you live with a footy fan and really aren't interested.

I hate it too.

My DH and DS love it though.

Thankfully most of my good friends don't like it either.

And not only that every conversation anywhere always ends up talking about football.

Male perspective here. I'm 53 and not a sports fan at all. No interest in anything sport-related. Makes me something of an outcast at work sometimes but I don't care because I have an honest attitude. I refuse to feign interest just to fit in.

To me, football means men shouting. And I find that very threatening, to be honest. I remember living in London and getting caught up in football crowds on the way from/ to the tube, and the air of barely suppressed violence was palpable.

Nowadays I live in a small village. On Saturdays football takes over the playing field at the centre of the village. The players park all their vehicles on the pavements so you have to walk in the road (if they've come to get fit, how come they can't walk 100m from a sensible parking spot?), and the shouting and swearing echoes over the whole village- they're so LOUD! And you can't walk across the playing field any more- not even around the edges of the match, there's a big crowd of shouting men there, and they're reluctant to let you pass. I thought it was just me, but I walked that way with a female friend recently, and she too preferred to walk the long way round rather than run the gauntlet of the football crowd.

I realise that all my concerns here are about men taking up all the space in different ways, and crowding and intimidating everyone else out.