Is my cousin being a CF?

[ncob]

Currently visiting a cousin in the states for her graduation. Flown from England (as she was sad her parents live in Asia and nobody could make it). Since being here she has prioritised glamming up & going out with friends. Have paid a bomb to get here, pay for almost all meals/ drinks so far but her schedule is to be up all night / sleep in the day. Lives a spoilt brat lifestyle of spending 3 hours (no exaggeration) glamming up, getting Ubers to bars and drinking cocktails. I’m only here 3 nights (2 done) and can’t wait to get back soon enough. Conversation has been easier with her flatmates than her. Shes always on her phone- I felt awkward and told her not to let me stop her from having her fun/doing whatever she wishes and with that she was out the door at 11 last night after we got in from food/drinks. Very confused and don’t know how to handle it today - it’s 9.30am, still waiting for her to get out of bed which I’m not expecting till at least 1, likely 2pm. Overheard her complaining about me being here to a flatmate. Do I try and talk things through or bide my time till flight back..

It sounds to me as if there has been a few assumptions on both sides and some misinterpretation of what has been meant. At least you now know that no matter how close you were as children, you aren’t as adults and try to leave tonight on reasonably good terms.

Sounds like she's in party mode, which is understandable given the graduation celebrations.
She probably genuinely did like the thought of having you there, but then found it didn't really work in practice.
You're basically incompatible.
Chalk it down to experience and just be glad that you got to see your friend

@TheSnowyOwl agree, thankfully have left on reasonably good terms.

@JMSA also agree entirely. I think she was truly excited and I’m not sure what she was expecting, but whatever it was I think the reality was far from that.

I won’t be rushing to return in a hurry (or ever). I’ve used up my leave (thank goodness for also being able to visit a close friend) and all in all probably spent a few thousand ££. I was mocked for finding things expensive (20 USD cocktails + ~20% tips?!) but she continued to let me pay for us both everywhere. No gratitude.. I’m not sure she appreciated I’m not her parent but an older cousin with my own life. I wasn’t once asked anything at all to do with my life. A strange and disappointing experience and not one that I’ll repeat.