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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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Spitalfieldrose · 30/04/2024 17:52

It’s been well over 35 years, but I still have the second hand cringe from this. My Mum saying to her SIL in her very best Hyacinth Bouquet voice ‘Well this is our investment house’ like she had just bought a 5 bed detached house.

It was a right to buy 2 bed council house on a dodgy estate in South London 😬

Calliopespa · 30/04/2024 17:54

Leah5678 · 30/04/2024 17:34

Sorry but This reminds me of that scene in saltburn where the main character pretended to be really poor and when the really rich boy drove him home and was shocked because his house was so average

I didn’t quite take that scene that way actually. I thought that given the way his background had been painted the “ snob” thought it didn’t look that bad after all.

TheGander · 30/04/2024 17:56

WearyAuldWumman · 29/04/2024 18:59

My uni boyfriend, after his first visit to my hometown (a coalmining area): "I didn't expect it to be so clean."

Everyone I’ve known from oop north mining towns/ background including uni flatmate, colleagues and DH has been scrupulously clean both personally and in their environment. My from down south family on the other hand, seems to view lack of hygiene as a sign of higher intellect.

Mumof5girls2023 · 30/04/2024 17:57

I was at my daughter’s gymnastics class and complaining about having to go home and do the housework because I was tired. Another one of the mums responded with “oh I feel your pain. My cleaner is on holiday for a fortnight and I have to do the housework myself”.

Maddad84 · 30/04/2024 17:58

Mines is "£3.50 for prawn crackers!" And that was in said council estates! 😂

CowboyJoanna · 30/04/2024 18:00

AngryBird6122 · 29/04/2024 17:36

We will be sending her to private school, I don’t want her ending up anorexic or in a gang

Apart from the private school thing, how is that snobby?

TheThingsTheySay · 30/04/2024 18:01

I once worked in a private junior school and there were a couple of times when little kids said things, with no idea how it might have sounded. On one occasion one heard a noise and when I explained it was the lift they said (actually, declared 😆) ‘Oh! That sounds like my dumb waiter!’ Another time, some year one kids were having story time and one of them pointed at the picture and said, ‘That looks like my granny’s castle!’

Leah5678 · 30/04/2024 18:03

Calliopespa · 30/04/2024 17:54

I didn’t quite take that scene that way actually. I thought that given the way his background had been painted the “ snob” thought it didn’t look that bad after all.

Yeah that's right the main character made out he was really poor and his dad had died and his mum was an alcoholic or something like that. And that he had no siblings. The viewer has no idea this isn't true until that scene, then you realise the main character is an unhinged bullshitter. Such a brilliant psychological thriller imo

MereDintofPandiculation · 30/04/2024 18:03

During lunch this attendee came up and was making small talk and asked which university I went to and I said I didn't. She looked me up and down like a piece of shit, turned on her heel and walked off. I had this. I was living in a fairly posh commuter town, trying to make friends by joining a women’s group. Woman I was in conversation with asked me where I was living, and when I gave the “wrong” answer, turned on her heel and walked off.

katseyes7 · 30/04/2024 18:04

I work on a supermarket checkout (stop gap until l retire later this year) and l once asked a customer what her perfume was, as it was so gorgeous.
She told me what it was, then added "It's very expensive, though. They only stock it at Harvey Nicks...."
I was wearing a watch that cost over £1000 over 20 years ago and a 2 carat diamond solitaire engagement ring, but they had clearly gone under her radar. 🙄

Arthur2shedsJackson · 30/04/2024 18:04

I had arranged for a mother’s help 2 afternoons a week over the summer - 3 children under 4.
I heard my 3 year old telling a neighbour, “we’ve got a Nanny AND a dishwasher!”

Jamberrytartlett · 30/04/2024 18:08

Clarabell77 · 30/04/2024 17:20

That’s just fucking crass.

I know. It was yuck.

ShagOnARock · 30/04/2024 18:08

"I'm upper class and you're undy class"

Australian relative telling me how the British class system ranks us.

littlealex2021 · 30/04/2024 18:15

I love Sainsbury's, it's great because it keeps the scum out of Waitrose...

DonnaBanana · 30/04/2024 18:17

To be honest I don’t encounter these snobby attitudes in my area as it’s a bit of a rough area and I am probably the one who seems posh in comparison

windinthehills · 30/04/2024 18:18

An old school friend who married very well and moved to a town in Surrey with her new husband said to me she would have to introduce me to her 'new council house friend - as she was really nice'

When we were getting ready to go out one night as teens she asked me to show her how to do my slutty make-up.
We aren't friends any more 😂

SeanBeansMealDeal · 30/04/2024 18:18

Katiesaidthat · 30/04/2024 12:59

At a spa in an expensive area, two mums were walking out of the place before me and one was worried because her son wasn´t studying enough. "So I said to him, make sure you apply yourself or you will end up a useless person, just like that lorry driver over there, he is a driver as he was too stupid to apply himself and get a uni degree".

Imagine how terribly upset she would be if Waitrose had empty shelves - all because the 'useless' lorry driver hadn't bothered to do his 'useless' job!

Mumof2girls2121 · 30/04/2024 18:20

I heard a councillor say that building new homes gave the people hope
it wasn’t what he said it was how he said it very patronising

tommyhoundmum · 30/04/2024 18:21

blueandgreenandyellow Many years ago the academic young man I worked with in a high profile office told me his mother had said he should watch Coronation Street to see how the other half live. I said why bother, you're working with me. (I am a working class Lancastrian).

tuvamoodyson · 30/04/2024 18:22

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 30/04/2024 17:34

I once had a customer who wasn't happy with the fact I wouldn't do something he wanted (because it was illegal!)

He went on a foul-mouthed rant and screamed the place down, drawing huge attention to himself, which end with him yelling "are you even aware of my pedigree and who my family are? We are a DYNASTY! You probably don't even understand what that means"

The phrase "are you aware of my pedigree?" is still thrown around the office on occasion.

‘I do know what dynasty means….its diarrhoea’

Gunnersforthecup · 30/04/2024 18:23

"Um, it is quite a... departure for me, going out with someone from a ...background like yours" although he did go on to say that he thought I was "super"

SevenSeasOfRhye · 30/04/2024 18:26

Projectme · 30/04/2024 10:09

I wasn't allowed to watch Grange Hill.

I wasn't allowed to have a Barbie ('what a horrible common little American thing' my DM would say) but I was allowed to have a Sindy (she was a UK equivalent and didn't look any bloody different!) 🙄

When was this? Back in the 80s and earlier, Sindy had a vaguely realistic body shape, in comparison to Barbie's ridiculous figure. I can see why a parent might choose Sindy; I always had Sindys (and my family is dead common).

DemBonesDemBones · 30/04/2024 18:27

@Houseinawood I think that's actually quite adorable!

Hartley99 · 30/04/2024 18:27

mondaytosunday · 30/04/2024 11:48

To be fair @oddgirl one oft recited reason for not wanting to apply or go to Oxbridge (and other unis like Durham and Exeter) is that it's 'full of posh private school kids', as if they are all obnoxious twits. Prejudice (akin to snobbishness) works both ways.

Yes, this is a fair point. I despise petty snobbery. Really despise it. The British middle and upper classes at their worst are repulsive, and some of the stories on this thread have made me boil with rage.

But...I have witnessed a fair amount of vicious, hate-filled, small-minded bigotry from working class people as well. And I say that as someone who went to a crappy comprehensive in Essex. I remember the 'comedian' Alexi Sayle, for example, casually referring to "public school c–nts," as if every single person who went to a private school is automatically awful. You can't help where you're born, full stop. You can't help being born to heroin addicts on a Manchester council estate, and you can't help being born to Eton-educated landowners in Surrey. I know people from wealthy, boarding school backgrounds who are absolutely lovely – kind, self-mocking, and full of guilt about their privileged upbringing. Judge people as you find them.

Applescruffle · 30/04/2024 18:31

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 14:42

I don't understand 'parrabel' but if you're trying to refer to the parable then do try to recognise mild humour! Copper is actually quite useful when I have to take £600 in cash to the bank, they would hurt far more than paper money if anyone tried to mug me!

Yes you do understand. You understand perfectly well.

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