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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

OP posts:
tuvamoodyson · 30/04/2024 17:00

Katiesaidthat · 30/04/2024 14:15

Oh no, you have left me speechless. I think this is one of the worst comments I have read. There is one famous thread in Classics where this lady fostered a baby who was withdrawing and I had my heart in my mouth whilst I read it. I felt so sorry for the tiny mite. I don´t think your ex-DP is snobbish, I think he is heartless, as in there is a void where his heart should be. I wouldn´t feel the same about someone who thought that uttering such a thought was acceptable.

Edited

Yes! That really is quite disgusting, that poor, poor child. I can’t imagine ever looking at him in the same way again…so heartbreaking for that poor, innocent, defenceless baby.

ttcat37 · 30/04/2024 17:02

Allfur · 30/04/2024 16:52

Surely we have to add this comment to the list!

Is mumsnet not online?

If you disagree that “it is a bit silly spending £30k on a crap school” then I’d love to hear your take.

the80sweregreat · 30/04/2024 17:03

I've got a Waitrose card and a key ring one even used the self scanners and the self check outs once ( was brought up on a council estate , it's a wonder they let me in)
I like taking my Lidl and co op plastic bags in there to pack too.

LouLou789 · 30/04/2024 17:04

Two examples:

  1. when I was a kid the woman next door used to call her DC in for tea by describing their highfalutin menu, eg “Come along for your fillet steak, sauté potatoes and petit pois”
  2. I moved to a new area with a toddler and (pre-Internet) went round to local venues to find out about groups. The woman in charge at one place told me I could not attend there because it was only for young mums under 25. I said, “How ridiculous” and the woman said, “Well, quite honestly, the girls who come here aren’t the sort you’d want to be friends with anyway.” I said, “How the hell do YOU know who I’d like to be friends with?” and walked out.
Idontfinkso · 30/04/2024 17:04

BFF when I was 10/11/12- her mum was WC but a uni professor, and the dad was MC also a prof.so they had the car. Boat, nice house.
I had young blue collar parents and lived on an estate.Mum was a complete snob.

The parents took 5 of us out for BFFs birthday dinner to a restaurant, and the mum said - in front of everyone- ‘ Oh Idontfinkso, I expect this is your first time in a proper restaurant, isn’t it?’
I confirmed that it was not. In fact we had been here a few weeks ago for a family Sunday lunch.
‘oh. I’m surprised estate families can afford to eat out at all really. It’s awful the amount people get in benefits these days.’

bloody cow! She was well aware that both my parents were in FT work.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 30/04/2024 17:04

Fleamaker · 29/04/2024 20:26

I used to work with someone who openly admitted he didn't speak/socialise with people who didn't have a degree like he did. He felt they were beneath him. It was very bizarre. I really wanted to know at what point he stopped talking to them. But I guess I wouldn't have got a reply.

I had someone do this to me. I was working in recruitment and was facilitating a graduate assessment centre for the graduate scheme. During lunch this attendee came up and was making small talk and asked which university I went to and I said I didn't. She looked me up and down like a piece of shit, turned on her heel and walked off. You will not be surprised to know she was not successful at the end of the day.

oakleaffy · 30/04/2024 17:07

Rockmehardplace · 30/04/2024 13:51

worst Comment actually came from my normally opposite-of-snobby ex-DP, who, when our baby was in the neonatal unit, seriously wanted me to ask for our baby to be moved to another cot cos he didn’t want him “hanging around with the addict in the next cot.” Poor newborn in the next cot was withdrawing, and was only days old.

That's horrific.
Poor baby has zero say in the matter, he or she was absorbing addictive drugs across the placenta- Withdrawing babies really suffer- they have a characteristically high pitched cry, and they shake.

The poor baby was probably being given baby sized weaning doses of an opiate by the hospital, but he or she was not a risk to the other babies.

Poor little soul.

the80sweregreat · 30/04/2024 17:08

My niece is a chartered accountant from a very normal comp. She's had all the comments and looks from people thinking she shouldn't have a degree. It is bizarre

SpiritOfEcstasy · 30/04/2024 17:09

Said by me to a horrible man who tailgated my car because I pulled out from behind a bus in front of him. I mean waaaay in front of him, having had time to indicate etc and make sure it was safe to do so. He accelerated really aggressively and tailgated me for ages and then drove into the back of my car. I got out to take his details and he started screaming at me about pulling out in front of him … five minutes previously. It was awful levels of road rage from a really angry man. In that instant I realised he just didn’t like my nice car. Or that I was a woman and he never would have behaved this way to a man. I told him that he was ugly inside and out. That he was a sexist bully who had thoroughly frightened my young DDs. I finished it off by saying ‘you’re just really bitter because deep down you know that my handbag cost more than your shitty van!’ I’m not a snob … but just that once I wanted to be!

PiggieWig · 30/04/2024 17:10

The woman in A&E who cast her eye around and complained loudly that 'you really do get all sorts in here, don't you?' with a grimace.

oakleaffy · 30/04/2024 17:10

the80sweregreat · 30/04/2024 17:03

I've got a Waitrose card and a key ring one even used the self scanners and the self check outs once ( was brought up on a council estate , it's a wonder they let me in)
I like taking my Lidl and co op plastic bags in there to pack too.

Waitrose won't mind- they are suffering in the downturn from what I heard- the more customers the better.

DrJonesIpresume · 30/04/2024 17:14

Relative to their dc: "Clever people don't smoke darling, it's only ignorant lower-class people who smoke".

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 30/04/2024 17:16

"You can take the girl out of the council house, but you can't take the council house out of the girl."

"You actually use a dinner knife to butter bread?"

"Wear what you want darling... we aren't poor."

Not a one of these was said by someone who was joking either.

godmum56 · 30/04/2024 17:17

SpiritOfEcstasy · 30/04/2024 17:09

Said by me to a horrible man who tailgated my car because I pulled out from behind a bus in front of him. I mean waaaay in front of him, having had time to indicate etc and make sure it was safe to do so. He accelerated really aggressively and tailgated me for ages and then drove into the back of my car. I got out to take his details and he started screaming at me about pulling out in front of him … five minutes previously. It was awful levels of road rage from a really angry man. In that instant I realised he just didn’t like my nice car. Or that I was a woman and he never would have behaved this way to a man. I told him that he was ugly inside and out. That he was a sexist bully who had thoroughly frightened my young DDs. I finished it off by saying ‘you’re just really bitter because deep down you know that my handbag cost more than your shitty van!’ I’m not a snob … but just that once I wanted to be!

well done he deserved it! Not snobby but I drive a 4wd and have for years. Where I live is often wet and muddy and the roads flood. While I won't say its essential, it makes my life easier. The first one I had had AC when it wasn't common (early 90's) and the box under the car used to frost up so when I stopped to park, a small puddle used to appear under the car. SO many times a man would tell me to tell my husband that HIS car radiator had a leak. Got to admit that i loved saying "Oh its my car and that's the air conditioning"

sockarefootwear · 30/04/2024 17:19

Acquaintance owns a holiday let (as well as her own huge house) in the tourist town where we live. It was already a holiday let before she bought it and the previous owner had an arrangement with a retired neighbour who washed the bedding and gave the place a clean between visitors as well as letting hirers in/looking after the keys. This arrangement continued for a year or so in to my acquaintance's ownership but as it was being let more often she soon decided that it was too much for her and she wanted to be able to enjoy her retirement.

Acquaintance advertised for a cleaner but deemed all applicants unsuitable because they all lived in Cheaper Area so would not understand how to clean to 'Posh Area' standards.

She eventually employed a cleaning company on the basis that the owner also lived in Posh Area. I do wonder if anyone has broken it to her that the people doing the actual cleaning almost certainly live in Cheaper Area (like over half the town)!

Basad · 30/04/2024 17:20

TurtleMoon · 29/04/2024 19:26

A recent one, when discussing whether we'd always wanted to go into our chosen vocation. Colleague says, "No, I wanted to travel and see the world first". Which would be fine, if it weren't for the fact that she said it to our proudly WC, raised by a single-mum, self-made colleague, who got a 6K bursary and is still paying off her student loan 20 years later. She was Not Impressed.

I don't think travelling colleague did anything wrong there to be fair

Clarabell77 · 30/04/2024 17:20

Jamberrytartlett · 30/04/2024 10:36

Re the Grenfell Fire
'Well, that's why it's so important to live in a detached house'.

That’s just fucking crass.

SpringYay · 30/04/2024 17:24

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 21:42

My friend lives in a notorious council estate in our large town. It's on the edge of the town and borders on a very nice suburb. She always says she doesn't live in in xxx she lives "on the outskirts of yyy" 😄
To be fair to her, she's only half serious 😄

We're the opposite, just inside the "right" postcode....I often say we'll it's really "lower XXX" ha ha ha, as we can walk to the top of our road and be in there....although that said, our mortgage is defo suburb YYY!

Jaq27 · 30/04/2024 17:26

My college flatmate's very posh boyfriend gave me a lift home when term ended and when he pulled up outside my mum and dad's modest 3-bed semi he said "You don't live THERE, do you??" and when I nodded meekly he guffawed.
He was a nice bloke really. Just part of the snobby Surrey set.

newrubylane · 30/04/2024 17:32

Early in my first year at University, a guy I was talking to turned out to be from my home town. He asked what school I went to and I told him. His reply: 'How the hell did you get in here?'

Leah5678 · 30/04/2024 17:34

Jaq27 · 30/04/2024 17:26

My college flatmate's very posh boyfriend gave me a lift home when term ended and when he pulled up outside my mum and dad's modest 3-bed semi he said "You don't live THERE, do you??" and when I nodded meekly he guffawed.
He was a nice bloke really. Just part of the snobby Surrey set.

Sorry but This reminds me of that scene in saltburn where the main character pretended to be really poor and when the really rich boy drove him home and was shocked because his house was so average

LightDrizzle · 30/04/2024 17:34

Gettingonmygoat · 29/04/2024 20:36

I really don't miss all of that crap. Many years ago my regular babysitter ( lets call her Tracey) turned up, she was a bit upset and had been crying. I asked what was wrong and she told me her Husband had been promoted, the RSMs wife had turned up at Tracey's door to congratulate her on her Husbands promotion ! and told her she would have to end her friendship with Sharon who was another Army wife, when Tracey insisted she didn't want to do that she was told she had to as Sharon's Husband was only a private and so the friendship couldn't continue.2 ranks now separated them.
Thank goodness the RAF wasn't that bad, i wouldn't have managed to last two decades with that rubbish.

The RAF wasn’t great 30 years ago. I went to a boarding school very popular with RAF families but my family isn’t forces. A good friend I’d been to that boarding school with, whose dad wasn’t an officer (Aircrew Sergeant?) went on to marry an officer, a Tornado pilot. She rang me saying she had a dilemma, a lovely and good friend of ours from the same school’s husband was posted to the same camp and she’d bumped into her. I was waiting to hear what the bad news about this friend 2 was, and it was that friend 2 had married a non officer and it was awkward as friend 1 couldn’t really socialise with her 🫣 I couldn’t believe it. It was mid 1990s. Hopefully she was permitted to fraternise with her own dad 😕

Another friend whose dad was a Wing Commander at Catterick back when there was a RAF camp there said that she and her sisters sometimes got saluted walking about the camp. Bizarre! They had no rank at all they were teenagers and very naughty ones at that.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 30/04/2024 17:34

I once had a customer who wasn't happy with the fact I wouldn't do something he wanted (because it was illegal!)

He went on a foul-mouthed rant and screamed the place down, drawing huge attention to himself, which end with him yelling "are you even aware of my pedigree and who my family are? We are a DYNASTY! You probably don't even understand what that means"

The phrase "are you aware of my pedigree?" is still thrown around the office on occasion.

Jaq27 · 30/04/2024 17:40

@Leah5678 Yeh I know the bit you mean. It was reminiscent. This guy came from proper old Surrey family - expensively educated, lovely old house/mansion, swimming pool, very posh friends. He just had no idea how ordinary people like me lived.
His brother was a real entitled snob, as in he said he fancied Xxx (part of our college friendship group) but she would only ever be a 'shag' because she wasn't in the same league as him.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/04/2024 17:45

Upon arriving at his friends v posh house in the West End my dad was asked by said friend, “is this your wife’s car?”

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