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AIBU?

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Original poster

or rather, did I over-react? Colleague thought it would be funny to spread a rumour as an April Fools joke that the father of my unborn child is my boss, not my DH

84 replies

MamaG · 02/04/2008 08:49

I was NOT impressed and told her so in no uncertain terms.

Apart from the fact that I don't want bloody rumours about the parenthood of my baby flying around the office (of course, it is DH's, no doubt about that !!) its effing unprofessional!

Should I have laughed it off, or was I right to be annoyed?

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Original poster
MamaG · 02/04/2008 09:05

oh God
Mate who shares office with HER said she's read my email and left the room...hasn't appeared here yet, no reply. Maybe she's gone to complain about me?

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Ulysees · 02/04/2008 09:05

I'd go ape s... if someone did that to me. What a stupid B she is.
Can you email it to everyone? Have you spoken to the boss? Don't let the stupid B get away with this.
wish I lived near I'd have her for ya!

Ulysees · 02/04/2008 09:06

Complain about you? Good luck to her hun. Don't get paranoid she's well in the wrong.

lizziemun · 02/04/2008 09:06

YANBU

But the first thought that came into my head (tis a strange place) is she trying to deflect rumours about herself.

blueshoes · 02/04/2008 09:06

Maybe she has gone to ponder her sins. No sympathy for her. You have the moral (and legal) high ground.

Original poster
MamaG · 02/04/2008 09:07

hehe Uly you sound like scrappy-do!

No, I didn't email to everyone thought I'd give her the chance to apologise first.

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blueshoes · 02/04/2008 09:08

BTW, MamaG, try not to email her any further. The ease of bulk forwarding emails and all. Not that you wrote anything worth forwarding. Just-in-case.

Youcannotbeserious · 02/04/2008 09:08

YANBU.

I would find this deeply offensive.

One year, a chap who worked for me sent me a valentine card as a joke and I nearly had him disciplined over it........

It's NOT funny in the slightest. Whoever made the point that, in a few months time, no-one will remember April fools, but will remember the rumour was right on the money!

SmugColditz · 02/04/2008 09:10

What a stupid woman. It does make you wonder, doesn't it, if the average IQ is actually 120 but had to be adjusted down to allow for her.

Ulysees · 02/04/2008 09:10

good point lizziemum.

at scrappy-do. Wouldn't hit her but it'd bloody annoy me if she upset a pg mate.

MadameCh0let · 02/04/2008 09:13

Tell everybody else that you're just back from a meeting with HR to discuss the defamation of your character, and that thankfully HR took you very, very seriously. They are going to be calling her in for her meeting in a couple of days.

Then let her sweat. Ha bl00dy ha!!

My boss used to like to joke that people might wonder if my baby were his. I had a sense of humour by-pass on that one. I said, nobody will wonder that....

McDreamy · 02/04/2008 09:15

Er.........so not funny! Poor you

littlelapin · 02/04/2008 09:17

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Lomond · 02/04/2008 09:19

YANBU! I would be furious. I would make a complaint about it.

pelafina · 02/04/2008 09:20

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Oliveoil · 02/04/2008 09:22

YANBU

do you have morning sickness? throw up on the hoooarrrr

Ledodgy · 02/04/2008 09:23

How the hell did I miss that you're pregnant! Congratulations.

Oh and YANBU she is a loon!

hifi · 02/04/2008 09:25

she needs a disciplinary, how evil.

McDreamy · 02/04/2008 09:26

Hmm I agree with a few others on here are there any jealousy issues involved here? BTW how are you feeling?

geordieminx · 02/04/2008 09:26

crazy woman.. Her that is, not you. I would have stapled her fingers to the desk.. Then shrieked 'april fool' and laughed hysterically before running away.

Ulysees · 02/04/2008 09:28

geordieminx, MG would get away with it too....plead pg hormones

edam · 02/04/2008 09:31

Congratulations, MamaG!

Your colleague is clearly suffering from an inability to handle social interaction. Thank heavens you managed to stop her before she went ahead.

I would make a formal complaint, in your shoes, just so it is noted and in case she ever looks for a way to get back at you. Sometimes the person in the wrong manages to feel aggrieved at being caught out.

millyk · 02/04/2008 09:34

You are not being unreasonable!

That is shocking!

NorthernLurker · 02/04/2008 09:36

YANBU - I think she hasn't come back because she is in the loo sobbing her heart out at what an idiot she is!

frumpygrumpy · 02/04/2008 09:37

Haven't read all the thread but I would say you did totally the right thing and if it was me I'd probably ask her to go around each and every person with the confession/apology. Mud sticks. Not amused.