Exes wife taking children on holiday

[chuckly777]

Children are 9 and 11. My ex also shares a younger child with his wife. They have been married for 7 years.

My ex has mentioned that the children are going to go away in the holidays with his wife and her family (ex not going). I wasn't asked, just told.

Would you be comfortable with this? Children get on fine with his wife and I believe her family too. It is during his time with them so he's saying it's not really up to me. Aibu?

If you completely trust her and think the kids would enjoy it, you should see it as a bonus.

You're not wrong to have feelings about it OP. I would be feeling uncomfortable and probably upset about it all. Your ex has also dealt with this in a really uncaring way. Would he like a man taking the kids away woth his family without you and not so much as a co versatile with you about it??
Do you have a relationship with his wife? Feel comfortable reaching out to her etc?

As long as the children are happy and you trust their step mother what is the problem? I get being told isn't great but they could have just come home and told you after they had been.

One thing though, make sure you (and or your ex) give written permission for her to make decisions while they are in her care.

My cousin broke his arm when he was staying with us. My parents were not allowed to consent to medication, and the hospital would not take consent over the phone from his mum so he had his bone set without anesthetic.

'Children get on fine with his wife and I believe her family too. '

She's been married to him for 7 years and I think it's lovely of her and her family to include her step children and lovely for the three siblings to go away together.

Yanbu. In such circumstances the adults don't have the same commitment to your child as a parent.

My ex lied to me one year, said he'd taken two weeks holiday when he'd only taken one. Apparently the new woman wanted to play at being 'mummy'. Then she got the news that her dad had died, and she abandoned my 8yo ds in a hotel while she flew to be with her family.
Ex couldn't get away. Frightened Ds had to ask the hotel to ring me.

If you don't trust her after 7 years, there must be a reason. I wouldn't be happy but my ex is selfish walking and his new woman is totally self centred.

If here UK I would feel OK with this .(Also a chance for you and hubby to have quality time together !) At 9 and 11 they are not tiny tots ,If happy they are going then leave them to have a good time

Legally she needs your written consent unless there is a CAO in place.

So you can stop it if you choose to.

How do you know OP has remarried?

Are they going to be anywhere near water? The one big concern I would have is if they are going to be around swimming-pools or other open water. I would want to discuss adult-child supervision ratios and pool safety in that case.

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