Opinions before I overreact about this - dangerous / wasting money.

[Torturedheart2]

My DP has a constant habit of falling asleep on the sofa half of the night while I go to bed early. There's now been numerous occasions I've gotten up in the morning or middle of the night and he is fast asleep with a fan heater blasting. This morning is the straw that broke the camels back. I leave for work early and just had an urge to check nothing was left on as he had only came to bed half an hour before I got up. I went into the lounge and there was a storage heater left one and had clearly been on all night as the room was sweltering hot. He'd also left a bottle of red wine on it to heat up which he hadn't even opened.

I am feeling really pissed and was ready to march upstairs and wake him but stopped myself. 1) I feel it is so dangerous to leave an electrical storage heater unattended (especially with a glass bottle on it) 2) he is wasting money and it's half my money that will be paying for this ridiculous waste.

I know I am probably overreacting so I am here asking how to bring this up properly and am I blowing it out of proportion? As I say, this is not the first time he's done something similar but going to bed and leaving it on and the wine bottle is a bigger issue as I think it would have been on all day had I not went to check. Feel like I'm living with a teenager.

He is putting your life at risk. I would wake him and go nuclear on him.

Why are you using electric heaters?

Some people don't have gas or oil. I don't.

But then she’d have electric central heating and he wouldn’t be plugging in fan heaters and leaving them running all night.

He's just doing it to heat up the one room rather than turning the central heating on which I mentioned earlier. Not an effective strategy clearly and I would obviously rather he didn't.

That only makes sense if he is turning it off. If he leaves it on then he might as well use the central heating on a timer for a few hours rather than the plug in for 12 hours or more.

I’d be losing my temper over this one.

Get a smart plug and set it to turn off automatically at 10/11pm or whatever time!

Get rid of the fan heater as a start.

Why is he putting the heating on so much?
What an absolute waste!

If he’s cold then he needs to put on another layer or go to bed.

The heaters can be used for taking the chill off but he’s using them excessively.

I’d be pissed off with him wasting the electric as it is, not to mention the fire hazard too.

I think it's fair to be angry about the danger.

No more warnings- the fan heater must disappear from your household.

If he doesn't want to disturb you be going to bed late, be pragmatic and arrange things so he has his own bedroom. Then he can get warm under a duvet and sleep in a proper bed at midnight.

LTB, no ifs, no buts. 👍

Tell him why you're pissed off and throw the fucking heater away.

Laughing so hard at ‘take away his football watching’ ahahaha as if you can treat a grown man like a child. How about ‘you left the heater on again it was well hot in there and the wine was boiled. Ive ordered a timer plug thing. Love you’

Just be careful with times and electric heater, some aren't designed to cope with the large draw. We had one that pretty much melted...

I know someone who burned their entire house down by falling asleep with a fan heater on. Luckily they were ok. I'd definitely get rid of it. Other than that, have a chat with him about his behaviour and either get him to go to be with you earlier or set an alarm at the other end of the room when he is downstairs so he wakes and comes up to bed. Tell him he needs to behave like an adult. At the very least he is going to create huge heating bills and probably end up with a sore back from sleeping in an uncomfortable position on the sofa.

OP doesn't have the right to bin family possessions to make point.

That is annoying, but if he's one of those men that refuses to change his ways you should get some mechanical plug timers so that it automatically turns off at X o'clock. That way you don't have to buy any new storage radiators, and you can be sure that it is always off overnight.

Edited to add: Make sure your smoke alarms are working, and that there is one in the living room as well.

The OP says partner falls asleep on couch early and she goes to bed early. Do you have a point to make?

"My DP has a constant habit of falling asleep on the sofa half of the night while I go to bed early"

Not everyone has central heating, I don’t. Portable electric heaters are my only option.

Theres no other option now : You have to ' up the anti'. ' EVERYTHING is turned off before you go to bed : new Rule for the ' Teenager'.
Are you familiar with the Fuse box??????
You can disconnect certain areas ( secretly) by fiddling with the fuse box.
Then ,when questioned , can just plead ignorance . Ask me , I ve done, and am still actively doing this in my house. ha ha ha ha!!!!

yeah, you’re right, she should just leave it and allow him to burn the house down and kill them all instead 🙄

Chuck the heater out after you’ve chucked him out An accident waiting to happen or fatal neighbours die in house fire

Timer plug or better still a smart plug so you can make sure everything is off at a reasonable time. If the temperature drops the cold will wake him and make him come to bed.

Smart plug has the advantage of being able to check it is off remotely. Put the app on your phone and don't give him access.

It would just be cheaper to have the central heating on than doing the small heaters. Especially the fan heater.

and safer.

The Op said her husband is a night owl. She goes to bed early and he stays up until 2-3am then falls asleep on the sofa.

Not everyone has central heating, I don’t. Portable electric heaters are my only option

Ditto.