18 year old 'pocket money' amount

[MrsJa]

How much should just turned 18 year old DS get as pocket money per month.

Is still at college, works part time getting at least £600 per month before overtime added.

No board to pay.
Eats food from home but pays for own driving lessons and meals out with friends.

We pay for holidays.

What are peoples thoughts/ opinions?

My lot all had PT jobs probably earning about £50-£70 a week,more during holidays . I paid for driving lessons but cannot remember paying for much more apart from holidays,food and mobile bills.

This!

The MN attitudes when it comes to money and teens baffle me at times. No need to be unnecessarily tight + harsh with them if you have the means not to be.

Wow that's a amazing amount for a part time job.

If his mum needs the money, keep paying. If not, save it for him. He’s your dss, who lives mostly with his mum.

DC gets £150 a month to cover college costs (transport, food, uniform, books/practical kit), haircuts and a sports activity monthly fee. He has a part time job which pays for clothes, social life, his phone (I did pay a basic sim-only contract till he wanted an upgraded iphone!) and a car. I’d not want him to focus on the pt job at the expense of the course, so feel like it’s my responsibility to cover the basics.

So the child maintenance will stop and instead of giving that money to his mum (who will presumably still be paying bills and buying food etc) you’d like to now give it to the 18yo to spend on Uber eats and Air pods and whatever else spoiled young people buy these days?! He does not need this cash right now.

more reasonable options would be

1. Still give his mum money to help keep a roof over his head and feed him

2 set up an ISA or something and pay in money for his future 3 give a big chunk towards first car/insurance

Yep.. Uber Eats and AirPods - all the kids spend their money on these days🙄

Have you not considered that an 18 year old needs clothing, a social life etc?

You shouldn't stop giving his mum child support. She still has to house him and pay the bills.

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I didn't give my DS pocket money at 18 when he had a part-time job.

I paid for all his food, essential clothes and driving lessons though.

Upto 18 I gave dds £100 per month each.they both worked part time from 16.

They both went to university and I gave them £200 per month for food/expenses (rent covered by loan)

Eldest now pays £100 per month board which is lower than I intended to charge but she is saving £700 pm for a house deposit (she's 24 as she did a gap year) she meets with mortgage advisor this week!

I planned to charge £300 pm once they are working.

Why would he need pocket money? Just…no!

My parents paid for our phone contracts when we were 18 and they put money aside for our 1st years car insurance.

with the average yearly car insurance for a new teen driver being about 3k they may need the help.

Why don’t you save the money for him to help with a house deposit later on or university costs?

It seemed like a lot when I compare to what my DS1 earns in a week, but I forgot the hourly rate for an 18 Yr old is probably quite a lot more. So I was just curious what type of job it was to be earning so well. It was a lighthearted question 😂🙄

Why are you even considering giving him money? He should be giving you £100 for rent and food. Thats far more disposable income than a lot of adults have, he need to get used to paying his way in the house

Put money in savings for when he wants to buy a home

Read the full thread, the DSS lives with his mum. OP has gross misrepresented the situation.

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My DD is hopefully likely to be in this position soon. She's taking a gap year to save up to contribute to her university costs. I will continue to pay for her phone, any holidays, family days out, basic toiletries, food, and household bills. She pays for her petrol, though I currently still pay for a bus pass she may not need this going forward. I won't be planning to give her extra pocket money but will probably still pay for odd bits and bobs for her.

He doesn't need any pocket money, but if he's going to uni and will give up his part time job you might want to consider how much you will be contributing then. Or will he be getting g a job and need a car? You could look at helping with the cost of that to set him up. I don't think he need a set amount of pocket money if he's able to work.

Don't give direct to the young adult but equally don't stop the payments to the mum until he leaves home or full time education. She will still have the same bills to pay. That is basic parenting, and decency, you don't just pay what a system tells you to.
On the money front, I give my DD £40 a week to fund train fares into uni but that is going to stop next month when she breaks up and works over the summer and we will renegotiate in September when she starts to live out. It will be on a need basis only

You don't give an adult pocket money..that's demeaning.

If you want to pay for something for him, go ahead.

Just don't treat him like a child.

No need for pocket money, he's an adult now with a part time job. He can get on with it.

Nothing, he has a job and no bills to pay. Why would you even consider pocket money?