Video chat?

[Mattime]

Inspired by something said on another thread, really

Aibu to think video chatting from bed to someone who isn't your dp or husband/wife, is inappropriate? Or am I just out of touch?

Are we talking
Friends
Family
Parents
Young woman down the road?

My dp did that with a female friend this morning (her from bed), is what inspired it. But I'm interested to know if that's something other people would be comfortable doing either as the from bed person or the other party

Any of the above

I wouldn't be happy with the situation you describe with your partner and his female friend. It sounds very intimate.
Unless of course she was so ill that being in bed at the time was her only option.

I've had video calls with my team where one or both of us is in bed.

I am out of touch. I get dressed to talk to people on the phone. 🤦‍♂️

@HappiestSleeping Who said that anyone wasn't dressed?!

Were you IN bed or were you dressed for outdoors and sitting on the bed?

No, she's not ill. She was just in bed from sleeping and I could only see her shoulders with the duvet pulled up. I don't know if that was better or worse

@Mattime Both. I've been in bed with a jumper over my pyjamas before and spoken to my team. I'm not saying it's the same situation to yours but in answer to your question, yes I have had video chats with people from my bed.

Are they long standing old friends?
Was a video call strictly necessary or would an old fashioned phone call have sufficed if she was still in bed?

I meant not in PJs. I sort of assumed that nobody would be in bed fully clothed.

No that's helpful too, thank you, it gives a different perspective

I've video chatted a Board meeting from bed before now. Very informal Board TBF.

Was everyone fully dressed? That's more of an issue.

I dunno, it's a bit weird

Bare shoulders showing, implying she is naked below, just woken from sleep.

Depends on the woman, and their relationship and yours with her.

I used to be surprised when younger colleagues sent me photos and videos they'd done whilst in bed but now it barely registers. I think for lots of people the bedroom has become less private - especially since Covid when bedrooms became offices for so many of us. As people also often live with parents or in HMOs, the bedroom may be the only room they can be alone to chat to a friend.

I'd love that to be the case, but she lives alone so has a house to herself

I have no relationship with her other than meeting her a few times

This.

I did a speed awareness course from my bed once (poorly). But i put a jumper on ...

Do they usually video chat?

Did he facetime her and that's where she happened to be? Or she called him from her bed?

As I said, lots of younger people no longer think anything of messaging from their bedrooms because it's what most of them do.

I'm about to join a work Zoom from mine. You'll be relieved to know that I'm wearing a top.

If she was sitting up in bed hungover in old pyjamas with a cup of tea, scruffy hair and no makeup I wouldn't think anything of it.

If she was smouldering in a silk camisole or naked with a crisp white sheet playfully entwined around her, like a fully made-up influencer in a 'Woke up like this' Instagram post that's a bit different.

I think messaging from a bedroom is a totally different thing from messaging whilst in bed and possibly not even wearing any clothing are two totally different things.
A few pp are giving instances of work related video calling. I assumed op was not talking about a work related call. I assumed this was a personal conversation between 2 friends.

I don't know as I don't know what happens when I'm not there, I've seen him video chat with her once or twice before

Definitely wasn't hungover! She was sitting up with duvet covering chest. I don't think I'd ever be comfortable video chatting like that with someone with the risk of them seeing anything they shouldn't :s