To not want a photo of me in front of the tv

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Name changed as this could be outing. Last year, we went to my mum's to watch the coronation. At the very moment that the crown was being lowered onto the kings head, my mum asked me to sit in front of the TV so she could take a photo of me next to the TV image of the king. I said "no, I'd like to watch this bit". This made my mum unhappy and she sulked for the rest of the day. As it happens I had already agreed to have such a photo taken earlier in the ceremony, even though I was still in my pjs. A year later she brings this incident up in arguments as an example of me being difficult. In her view, it was selfish and rude of me to say no to a simple request and that anyone else would have posed without argument. Was I unreasonable?

This is the weirdest thing ever -- your mother wanted to take two different photographs of you in front of the TV during the coronation? Was it a proof of life photo for a ransom demand or something???

I would have turned it around and said I’d take a photo of her instead.

Its a bizarre argument

I think you're both unbelievably weird. Your mum for taking the photos and you for telling people what she did.

This can’t be real. If it is, your mum is fucking mad.

This is so weird I can't even get my head around it. She's still beating you with this stick a YEAR later? Absolute madness, and you are not at fault here.

What? 🤣

Your mum is weird. HTH 😉

OP you could make all her christmases come at once and recreate the moment for a photo opportunity.

Just get it up on playback.

She mad though, yes.

I'm aware this is strange. I have a difficult relationship with my mum and my reason for posting is that we have been arguing a lot and this has been brought up again. No amount of explaining will make her see that her perspective is irrational.

I am sorry but this is one of the weirdest things I have read on MN. Your mum seriously needs to find more important things to busy herself with. I would tell her so. And go LC if she continues her nonsense.

Your mum’s mad.

How old are you? Sounds like something you’d ask your 12 year old to do.

I'm 30 😂

Your mother sounds a very difficult woman

My mum wanted me to dress in a wedding gown and stand in front of Megan Markle on the TV. The photo is still on her mantle.

Yanbu for not doing it as it's awkward when my husbands family come to visit my mum's. And our kids sometimes tell family friends about my first husband, Harry.

🤣🤣🤣 Your mum.sounds bonkers ! Play along though for shits and giggles . Can you photo shop a picture of you and Charles for her ? Even better put a big X over Camilla on the other side? Add in the late Queen for maximum effect.

@Janpoppy No way ! 😂🤣🤣🤣

How completely bizarre. Your mother sounds very difficult indeed. You were not unreasonable to say no to her weird photo request (or any photo request at all for that matter!) and it should’ve been just left there. To still be bringing it up a year later as ‘proof’ of your (according to her!!) difficult personality is completely unreasonable and quite mad.

Was it some kind of weird worshipful thing, you being her queen or something?

As far as I can tell, she wanted the pic to show future grandchildren. I dunno really.

It's the kind of thing I can sort of imagine doing with a 4 year old, who is unlikely to remember that they watched a historic event. Not with a 30 year old!

You've caught me out 🙃

It didn't happen to me but I'm sure it has happened to someone! 😂

@Janpoppy and here I was thinking at least I wasn't the only one!!

Oh gosh - I've just read your update about your mum wanting to show the grandkids the photo... I really wasn't far off! So sorry OP!

My mum once came to stay, was fed, entertained etc for four days.
She then wrote via the post, to me - typed, two sides of A4 about my view that the gap between rich and poor was widening and how this was disrespectful to the boomer generation. And a throwaway comment I'd made three years previously about lifestyle choices effecting health outcomes.

My mum holds a very long grudge.
And then a global pandemic happened which meant I barely saw them for two years, which was nice.
I reread the letter every so often, it reminds me how bat shit she is and how careful I have to be to keep healthy boundaries.