Can't take a joke

[RHINO89]

Me and DH and kids having lovely morning. Feeling happy. I'm in the middle of a sentence talking with DH about something fairly important, and he is stroking dog. He scrunches dog skin so it goes wrinkly and says "ah look its mummy forehead"

It wasn't just the joke but I was in middle of saying something. I didnt go mad just stopped talking and said that felt a bit mean. He said FFS Rhino I'm kidding about. I said well it didny feel great and I was in the middle of talking. He said "rhino why do you need to ruin things when it's so obviously a joke"

This is pattern. We both think the other one is out of order.

What do you think? Do I need to learn to take a joke better? I don't get angry or anything just I feel a bit small in that moment. He is pissed off though that I ruin a good atmosphere at home

Dismissive and unpleasant. Why does he need to ruin a normal conversation with unfunny comparisons?

“It’s only a joke if we’re both laughing.”

He's telling you he didn't think what you were talking about was important.

HE ruined the atmosphere, not you.

Tell him his mean comments are NOT jokes.
twat.

This. It’s a horrible habit to dismiss someone’s feelings (especially someone you love) by saying ‘it’s only a joke’.

And this. If he doesn’t apologise for cutting you off with an uncomplimentary comment, then he clearly doesn’t actually care about your feelings at all.

He sounds fucking infantile. Is he immature in other ways?

Urgh! I hate the 'can't you take a joke' twats!

Being rude and insulting and infantile, and upsetting someone, and then claiming it's the person who is hurt who is the problem? Why do people do this? Assholes!

YANBU @RHINO89

He was being deliberately unkind and dismissive. Twat.

He's the one ruining it, that's a very unpleasant thing to say not a joke at all.

Next time when you're out with the kids find an acorn and say oh look it's daddy's knob! See how funny he finds that joke 🙄🤣

Sounds like some arsehole whose drink you spilt in the pub rather than your loving husband.

Why did he have to say it was your forehead and not his own?

I might make a quip like that but mock myself and my wrinkles because then no one's feelings get hurt and I'm not a cunt

I’m going to start using this. ^^
DH did have a habit of making “jokes” about my appearance and then doing the old “can’t you take a joke?”. He’s nearly 60 and I’ve started doing it back. Ooh he doesn’t like it one bit! He got the message though 🤷‍♀️

That's just nasty. What was it you were saying that he cut across? Perhaps that is a clue as to why he feels he can be a mean twat when you were all having a lovely time. Ffs.

This. ‘I think my ‘witty’ bantz insulting your appearance is more important than anything you’re saying’.

I was talking about something a teacher said at DC parents evening. He gets super sensitive if I don't listen to him too! He likes to talk at length about things he's seen online and if I look distracted he'll say "you're not even listening" and then go silent for hour.

It just wouldn't occur me to make a joke like that about him. I make jokes about myself and we do take the piss out of each other but it's when he just randomly jokes when we are talking about something else. Also so often about my face!

I would have said dont mean about your mother but you have a face like a slapped arse.

Side rant why do pet owners call their selfs mummy and daddys to pets last i heard women dont give birth to cats and dogs.

That wasn't a joke, it was dismissing your appearance and your voice.
Eejit!

Grab the dog's dick or arsehole (not really, obviously) and say 'oh look, it's dad.'

That’s nasty.

How would he feel if you picked up a cocktail sausage at a family BBQ and said oh look it’s hubbys pp.

Thank you - I’m having a shite day and that’s really made me laugh

Or even just a mushroom, next time you're cooking with one.
Saves foraging for acorns

@walnutcoffeecake he wasn't saying it to the dog. He was saying it to the kids.

@Shiningout I would but its too near the god damn truth.

He likes to talk at length about things he's seen online and if I look distracted he'll say "you're not even listening" and then go silent for hour.

What a prick. Honestly, just tell him he's boring the tits off you and then hit him with 'why are you getting huffy, it was only a joke'.