We took the kids away for a city break over Easter. DH is still mad at me over a few things. I don't think IABU here but would be good to know if others agree with DH and I am wrong.
- Kids had breakfast at airbnb in the morning around 8am. At 9am we were out in the city. I went into a coffee shop to grab coffee for me and DH. Came out of the shop to DH (who was on the phone) and he was upset that I didn't buy DC a doughnut or sausage roll in the shop. Said it was terrible that I bought coffee and nothing for DC. He then tried to take DC into shop to buy them something and DC said no because they didn't want anything!
- I planned an itinerary for the few days based on what everyone wanted to do. I asked them in advance what they would like to see/do, booked and paid for things and worked out the best way to fit everything in. Kids and DH picked (some expensive and some free) attractions that they wanted to see and I made sure we got to see/do everything. There was one attraction I really wanted to see. We got there, everyone was amazed.
There was a 30 minute 'show' there that I wanted to see. DH went on the phone (again) and DC started playing up, I went down to youngest DC (age 4) level and said 'please be good. This is the one thing I wanted to see here, we are also doing the things you want to do, please don't ruin this for me'. DH hates me for this, keeps bringing it up and saying I am selfish and make everything about me.
- Older DC (age 10) farted in a small Tesco Express and I told him that was rude and he should not have let one off inside a small shop where people were buying food.
- Getting dinner one night, I accidentally put the wrong card into a machine and the reader said 'declined'. Over my shoulder, 10 year old read out 'DECLINED' really loudly for everyone in the shop to hear. I told DS that he should not have done this.
- Younger DS wanted to get some felt tip pens in a shop. I said no as he didn't need them in this foreign city where he had nothing to colour in anyway. DH bought them for him.
So weeks later, DH is still angry at me for all of the above, calling me selfish all the time and saying I make everything about me.
DC have no issue with me. I always talk everything through with them and make sure that when they go to bed at night they are happy, know I am not cross at them for any reason - they aren't upset or scarred by these things.
Please tell me, am I wrong here?