He complains it hurts but won’t take pain relief!?

[Farmwifefarmlife]

DH will complain of something, headache, backache. Tonight is a sore eye. Yet he won’t take any pain relief. AIBU to tell him to stop complaining? He’s really driving me up the wall tonight with it.

Paracetamol isn't particularly likely to do much for a dry or scratched eye. Saline made with boiled water and sea salt might help.

My dh does this. Won't take painkillers because they "don't do anything", then complains about being in pain. I ignore him tbh...not interested in the whinging if he won't do anything about it.

I'm afraid I can NOT stand people who moan but will do sod all to help themselves OP. My DH knows not to whinge unless he's already taken pain killers, otherwise he just get's an earful, lol

My husband complains a lot about aches and pains. My issue is he will take a lot of pain relief and then refuses to see a doctor because he thinks they will just say he is old and to suck it up. So I sympathise with you on the constant complaining combined with unwillingness to try and help himself. I think if his arm fell off, he’d try and glue it back on before seeing a doctor. 🤣

When I was younger if I moaned I had a headache and then wouldn't take painkillers my DM would say "well, it can't be that bad then"

I now say it to DH 🫣

YES. This happens all the time in my household.

I have a tonne of sympathy if you are doing what you can to help yourself.

I have hideous period pain, and keep going because… y’know, small kids, job, house. So ‘I have a headache and I’ll have a lie down not a paracetamol’ pisses me right off.

Another DH here who says "they don't do anything" 🙄

I do agree but he won’t do anything suggested in the NHS website nor will he see a doctor.

Definitely YANBU. If someone says this to me, I'm likely to tell them to shut and enjoy their headache then.

Oh yeah men always do this. They won't take painkillers/meds because it might make them better, and then they won't have anything to whinge and moan about, and try to gain sympathy for.

I'm sure men never used to be like this. My dad (born in the 1930s) certainly wasn't - OR my uncles, OR my grandfathers.

Seems to be a 'man born after 1960' thing.

I think for a sore eye a pharmacist can dispense over the counter eye drops? I’m sure your DH will grumble about that too though, sometimes I don’t know why we bother trying to be helpful.

DH does this.

Now I have a DS that says he took one paracetamol yesterday and claims "it's still not working"

Yes I am going to go to boots tomorrow as he is working, they have a a chemist and I’ve taken a picture but not sure if he will take them but if I get something there is no excuse. Fed up of him moaning.

Haha brilliant! Might say that next time.

My husband has taken to his bed with toothache. He's been useless for 2 days. The worse thing is I didn't get two days in bed following a C-section. I had 4 hour dental surgery and came home to 2 kids, dirty dishes and was expected to parent.

DH is exactly the same.He'll moan and groan about a sore throat,headache ,back or any other body part but won't take any painkillers. I just ignore him.If he tries to help himself by taking paracetamol or ibuprofen then he'll get my sympathy.

My father is exactly the same. Takes a cocktail of different tablets each day for various ailments but won't take painkillers for his arthritic knees - or if he does, it's one paracetamol only. He gets very little sympathy.

Just completely ignore him. My DH will say that he has had knee trouble for 10 years I ask what the Dr said about it knowing full well he hasn't been.

My OH is the same. Drives me bananas 🍌.

I have ALL the sympathy in the world if he has actually tried a bit of self help (ie painkillers) and it hasn’t worked.

ZERO sympathy if the above steps have not been taken. Grrrrr.

Mine is the same. I ask if he's had some painkillers or tablets, he says no, I say "well, stop moaning then". 🙄

I don't get it. Either it's attention seeking or they're weird and enjoy being in pain?

Same here - do something about it or stop whinging.

Mine does this. He will shuffle about in his dressing gown of doom, clutching himself and groaning, saying things like "I just can't get waaaarm".

I'll ask if he's taken anything for it, he says "like what?" I suggest paracetamol, he says "I don't know there they are" etc. Drives me mad.

Are we married to the same man? 😆

When my DH is 'not well,' he is always cold too. He walks around the room in that dressing gown, sniffing (though there's nothing there, so like dry sniffs,) and also 'coughing,' now and again, shuffling around in his slippers, and pushing his hand at me telling me to feel it as it's like a block of ice.

He has always been much colder than me. It has to be over 17 C outside for him to not be cold. People are different. I am always warm. I KNOW he gets cold/feels the cold, and yet he always has to regale me with how 'bitterly cold' he is, and shove his hand in my face to 'touch' or feel and says 'feel how cold I am feel ... FEEL.'

I have actually started saying (when he says he's cold,) 'I do NOT need to feel your hand. I know it's going to be bloody cold!'

DH has a thing about feeling cold or warm as a sign of illness. So on a cold, miserable day he'll be saying "I feel really cold, is it just me?" In a hopeful tone of voice; likewise on a hot day he's convinced he must be feverish because he feels hot. If I point out that it's 3/30 degrees, he's have something to worry about if the didn't feel cold/hot, he's clearly quite disappointed.

People are such dicks when it comes to taking pain relief.