"What does she actually do?"

[solucky1988]

Is a comment my partners work colleague apparently made when he turned up to work with last nights pasta, and when asked if I'd cooked it he told him no I didn't, he cooked.
Yes he cooks, but that's it.
I've recently decided to stay at home with our 2 children. What I do I stay home with our 2 year old and keep every single aspect of the house clean and tidy.
But apparently I do nothing.
AIBU to be hurt by this?

And what was his reply to that question?

Why did he tell you?

Didn't you already post this? I think your husband was calling you lazy and shouting at you?

How did he share this information, in what tone?

I hope he told his colleague that he was being rude and over stepping the mark. What you do is of course childcare for your young child, as agreed between you and your husband.

Why would you be hurt by an idiotic comment made by this person? Their opinion shouldn't be important to you, it's more important that your DH pulled him up on it.

Why would he tell you that story ?

You had loads of replies to your thread this morning

If your husband agrees with this comment then you need to go back to work full time and make sure he does his 50% of everything: childcare, pick ups drops offs sick days cleaning cooking organising planning laundry lifts etc. Refuse to do an ounce more.

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I think he’s telling you think for a reason, maybe if you’re home with the young one he expects you to cook if he’s working full time?

I wouldn’t be hurt at something your husbands colleague said, it isn’t like your husband said it

Honestly, I wouldn’t give a shit what my dps work colleague has to say about me.

But I also am pretty sure Dp would tell him he was a dick AND not tell me.

I would suggest he is telling you for a reason. That he thinks he you should be cooking.

Read the post properly. It’s young ones plural. Cooking is literally the only thing he does do and you would have him not do that either?

If this were me, my husband better bloody hope that he stood up for me and didn’t entertain this sexist BS

I think the co-worker’s thoughts oddly mirror his own.

How does he feel about you deciding to be a SAHM?

YOU decided to stay at home. Was it not a joint decision?

I’m thinking the same, I’m doubtful this conversation even happened and hubby used it as an excuse to say what he was thinking himself 👊🏼

Generally the person staying at home to care for children is better placed to cook? It’s a clumsy question, but not that odd.

Did this conversation actually happen or does it suit his narrative to say it did? That is, he's telling you that HE thinks you do nothing? Either way, let everything pile up for a few days and when he mentions it, tell him that's you actually doing nothing.

Why do you even know about it 🙄 I would think DH is dropping hints tbh

Lol.
Time for a week away. Family emergency. Just drop it on him at short notice and go. When he has juggled family commitments, work and WFH for a whole weekend and a working week , he will know exactly what you do every day.

Be warned, on return he will be exhausted and the house and laundry will be in disarray.

Yes! I think ‘the co-worker’ might be a conversational mechanism.

Who the hell do you think you’re talking to you rude individual.

To pick up on someone’s typo - who you have no idea has a learning disability.

At what point did I agree with what he said?

Get a grip, you’re clearly such an unhappy person to be so outright rude.

Your DP clearly isn't on board with you SAH or he wouldn't have relayed that comment, and it doesn't sound like you're married (you've said DP rather than DH). Honestly unless you've got independent wealth or you've got everything legally sewn up in case you split, I'd be going back to work. You're really vulnerable here.

Why on Earth would he tell you that? To try and make you feel indebted to him and like you should be slaving at home?