Is punching a wall emotional abuse...

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Just trying to get opinions on if punching a wall and swearing angrily would be something people consider abuse or if there is ever situations this could be a justified reaction.

Some context - it was me raising a conversation about making some plans with family that would maybe include more than a couple of days... all of us together though wasn't something I was doing separately.

Yep, domestic abuse along with violence and criminal damage (if the punching person doesn’t own the wall)

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There was a similar thread in the last day or two.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5050844-is-punching-furniture-aggressive-and-potentially-dv?reply=134569773

It's an unacceptable reaction

I think you'd need far more context to say whether it was part of a pattern of emotional abuse or not.

Ultimately though, the categorisation doesn't really matter. The behaviour was unacceptable. Make plans going forward based on how you feel about it.

Sorry, posted too soon,
and the consensus is yes.

It's an act made to intimidate you, it's telling you "look I could have hit you but I didn't, next time it could be you". So yes, very abusive. I would take it as the warning it was intended as and leave sharpish.

If someone doesn't want to do something they say " sorry, that doesn't work for me. You go and have a nice time though"

Yes definitely. And definitely if it causes fear & upset.xx

With the context you've given, I'd say it could certainly be considered emotion abuse. It reads as though he's trying to influence or change a decision you've made by displaying anger (an anger he'll no doubt blame you for instigating)

Its not normal, is it? I think if you ask a question like this, you know the answer, but want validation. No one should be punching walls. No one's anger should be that intense that they need to physically punch something. What happens when that something becomes you, instead of a wall?

I have just read all of the comments in relation to someone punching a wall in anger and I do totally agree that it is very unacceptable and also very distressing for the intended victim.