To give my SIL the heads up that DD is unwell before her big wedding

[MalibuBarbieDreamHouse]

Basically that, my DD5 is the flower girl for my SIL’s wedding, the other flower girls are younger and follow her lead… and my SIL has also organised for her to hold a sign.. read a little poem etc. There have been quite a few rehearsals!!

The wedding is Saturday and no expense has been spared but DD is not well, she was sent home from school on Monday with no obvious symptoms, but went down quickly, this morning we’ve been to the doctors and she had a double ear infection, high temp, potential sinus infection and a nasty cough, she’s exhausted and sleeping most of the day.

MIL and DH have both said I cannot tell SIL that DD is unwell, as she is very stressed this week, but part of me thinks it’s best to give her the heads up? I am due to go to a pre wedding brunch tomorrow morning, but will have to cancel due to looking after DD, so I tell her DD is unwell or I have to make up a worthy excuse to be missing it.

How is she this morning @MalibuBarbieDreamHouse?

Very lethargic 😢my MIL was watching her this morning, she was mostly asleep but I’ve woken her for lunch and she doesn’t seem to remember her grandma being here, hoping the antibiotics kick in really soon, I just want her to feel better.

Little update if anyone cares… DD perked up Friday evening and woke up Saturday ready to go! She crashed after the wedding ceremony, woke up for the wedding breakfast, had a little dance, now the two littles are asleep, and I have my feet up! All is well

Phew! Excellent, well done that little lady.

The solution in my view is to definitely go to the brunch tomorrow so that you can talk to your sister face to face. It's the best way of communicating! Your dh can look after his daughter.

The whole brunch doesn't have to be about this but you could mention it.

Either way you'll be there as her sister and that's the most important thing.

You're a bit too late!

Firstly it was the sister-in-law, not the sister and the wedding was today. OPs dd was well enough to go and all is well.

Glad she made it, the power of antibiotics. Thank goodness we still have some that work!

Well done to your little lady!

Glad to read your update ! Kids can get better very quickly once they get treatment . So glad to hear that she was able to attend the big wedding - all's well that end's well.

Glad to hear she's better and it went so well!

Great news ☺️

Thank you for the kind and helpful comments, very grateful and blessed, she was able to bounce back to her smiley self again

Out of interest did your SIL know anything before or after the wedding that dd had been ill?

Tell her FFS. Your MIL and DH sound insane. How is keeping it from her with the resulting no show on the big day going to help anyone?????

JFC @IvorTheEngineDriver why not RTFT?!

I didn’t reach out, it didnt seem worth it to have to deal with DH… MIL and SIL, if DH was willing to take any backlash that came if she was mad we hadn’t told her. At the brunch, I just slipped in that I needed to leave by 2, as my mum was watching DD5 as id kept her off school and she said “aww” all worked out well in the end!

Perfect outcome!