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Buying a house, blending family and finances

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Undecided16 · 16/04/2024 23:05

I am in the process of buying a house with my partner of 2 years and we have 2 children each from previous relationships who live with us individually full time.
We have not spoke about finances until the last few days and it has gone sour!
when we worked out the finances, she suggested 65% of our wages each month however this means that I pay almost £2925 per month and she pays £1300. I didn’t think that was fair although she does receive child benefit and tax credits which she will lose if we move in and I am happy to pay more however I think £1700 a month more is excessive if we are going in together. She receives DLA for both her kids which is £1300 and child maintenance totalling £530 on top of her wages. I receive £400 a month DLA for my son and have a rental income from a property which give me £800 a month on top of my wages.
Am I being unreasonable thinking that paying £1700 more a month on a house that we both own 50/50 although we both matched the deposit for the mortgage.
please be honest

OP posts:
AnotherEmma · 20/04/2024 11:18

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 11:18

thanks for your comments, we have resolved it now and she has agreed to give me the PIP to cover the difference.

WTF!

StormingNorman · 20/04/2024 11:45

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 11:18

thanks for your comments, we have resolved it now and she has agreed to give me the PIP to cover the difference.

You took disability benefit off a 16 year old in full time education? Either this is a joke or you’re a joke of a man.

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 13:06

I always get my way in the end!
But at least she got to go to the new forest which she brought me for Christmas and we got some bikes out but she couldn’t quite afford the electric bike so she settled for the push bike and she held the rucksack #winning

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Kazzybingbong · 20/04/2024 13:35

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 13:06

I always get my way in the end!
But at least she got to go to the new forest which she brought me for Christmas and we got some bikes out but she couldn’t quite afford the electric bike so she settled for the push bike and she held the rucksack #winning

I don’t believe someone earning £200k PA believes it’s ‘brought’ instead of ‘bought’. WTAF is this thread? All those people spending time to type out thoughtful responses on the OOP and this is what you say? Are you really that sad that you’ve done all this for entertainment? Whether this is real or fake, I have come to the conclusion you’re a twat.

CarrieHain · 20/04/2024 13:47

Buying you the New Forest would be expensive. Bringing it jolly difficult. Twat.

EverybodyLTB · 20/04/2024 13:48

Wow. Fucking wow. This can’t be real? Someone on 200k plus says ‘brought’ and nicks a child’s DLA? I’m in the wrong job!

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 13:56

I am hiring if you want a job?

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AnotherEmma · 20/04/2024 14:28

It's a wind-up isn't it.

Starseeking · 20/04/2024 16:42

Undecided16 · 20/04/2024 11:18

thanks for your comments, we have resolved it now and she has agreed to give me the PIP to cover the difference.

You're happy to take a 16 year old's PIP when you're on £200k per year?!? Disgusting.

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