To regret having children??

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I know it's done to death but I'm exhausted.

I'm a lone parent, please don't ask about my children's fathers - not around and that's the end of it. Don't want to be berated for my poor choice in men. I was diagnosed with PND the other week so that will be making it worse but;

My 5yo is too much to the point I'm exhausted, my 6mo has his little challenges but is far easier than my eldest (for now). She doesn't SHUT UP and is constantly talking - excessively. No words for the amount of energy she has, she doesn't have an off button, when I send her to bed she doesn't sleep and will often refuse to go - good sleeper as a baby but since 9mo old she's been terrible. Friends and family have noted how bouncy she is and how much she talks, I'll ask friends to meet and if I have the kids they'll say I don't have energy for little lady today (just baby, no problem). She just exhausts me, it's like sensory overload by the time we're in from the school run that's it I'm ready for bed!

When I do get a break I get judged and berated by most people I know and I'm just burning the candle and both ends - no idea what I'll be like post maternity leave!

Sorry if I'm rambling but I'm half asleep all the time, she's just so intense and I don't know what to do. I honestly never thought I'd say I wish I never had children

My sister is well i cant explain it really.
She never felt like a mum at all loves her kids but really didnt click with mother hood she hated it but she kept going on with it she called it an acting job.
From the outside she was lovely ontop with things the rock.
But it was all an act.
Now they are adults she feels free.
She has no MH issues just the way she is if her children need her she will be there.
She said it was like raising her siblings she as no maternal instinct at all.
She went to the GP when the kids were younger but nothing was wrong with her its just who she is.
Her children dont call her mum either they use a nickname her children are the same as her but without kids of their own they see her as a big sister.
They get on like a house on fire but no mother daughter feels it's odd but they are happy.

Many parents with PND feel a sense of dissociation and detachment from the child/children. This can consequently impact the child’s development and attachment. This can show in different ways (depending on the child). Rather than rushing for an ADHD diagnosis, consider seeking help for a psychologist to explore the root of the behaviour. For young children interventions like play therapy can be amazing.

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