To ask for your ‘everything happens for a reason’ stories!

airforsharon · 16/04/2024 19:37

I've often wondered if that's a reason some people have religious faith, you can 'give up' your woes to a higher power and accept if x/yz does or doesn't happen it was God's will and out if your hands.

Anyhoo, i can think of one 'are you actually shitting me?!' hellish moment which might give you a glimmer of comfort - we were gazumped right at the 11th hour on a house. The owner told us, essentially, to match the new offer or sod off. We were half packed, our buyers chomping at the bit for us all to get moving. DH was furious, refused to match the offer, so we pulled out. I was really stressed and convinced we'd lose our buyers and end up back at square one. The following day a beautiful house came on the market in an area we much prefered and very close to a primary school (we had several young dcs). Viewed it, offered straight away, offer accepted, moved in 4 months later. Had 12 very happy years there.

So yes, i think things can work out for the best :)

Sourisblanche · 16/04/2024 19:49

I’m having a bout of ill health too so sympathies.

Mine is, between lockdowns we sold up and put an offer on a beautiful but fairly remote house in Dorset. Our buyers then demanded an extra £100k off our house at the last minute. We said no and they pulled out. So we lost what we thought was our dream house. I realise now it would have not suited my teens at all and there were drawbacks to the house that I ignored in my haste to move.

We stayed put, sold again for way more than the first offer and a new job opportunity came up. We are now moving to a French city, we’ve been to visit with the dc and everyone is very happy.

Loubelou14 · 16/04/2024 19:57

I was really unhappy in my job and was excited to get an interview elsewhere. I was desperate to leave my job. I received the rejection letter on my birthday weekend and was devastated to have to return to the job I hated. A month later a new department was being set up so I applied and got the job. A move within the same company. It was the best decision and I've been happy every since. Whenever I need an example to show things happen for a reason I use that. If only I had I known a month later I'd get a better offer....

Marellaspirit · 16/04/2024 20:00

I quit my job as a childminder at the end of 2021 as I was having a midlife crisis and started working in the nursery of a local school. Absolutely loved the job, it was a temporary contract for a term but I'd been pretty much assured the contract would continue beyond that. Then they told me it wouldn't automatically be renewed, but they'd like me to apply for it. Long story short, I was passed over and found myself out of a job.

I found another job in a really crappy place which I hated and was really miserable. I'd been in a long distance relationship for nearly 10 years but we'd never really talked about living together and who would be prepared to move. I started looking at properties in his area, found a gorgeous one and sent him the link. He liked the look of it, a week later we went to view it and a week after that we put in an offer. We moved in 3 months later! My life has been transformed for the better, I love my adopted home town and our relationship has gone from strength to strength.

I was devestated by how I'd been treated at the school job and how it hasn't worked out but if it had, I'd have never have had the kick up the bum I needed to sort my life out.

NoEffingWay · 16/04/2024 20:15

Divorced, left my house, financially buggered in early 2020.

Met my now husband, and now I'm sat in our home, my son is the happiest he's ever been and I feel better than ever despite still being as poor as a church mouse!

iLovee · 16/04/2024 20:18

This is a lovely idea for a thread! I'm also still looking for my reason and everyones stories are giving me hope! Thank you 😊

PassingStranger · 16/04/2024 20:41

I agree with your saying always have and face, but don't know what the reason is lol.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/04/2024 20:48

I was once on a boat in Vietnam. During the night a giant cockroach jumped straight onto my face. I screamed, ran onto the deck and spent the rest of the night half awake in a deck chair.

The sun started to rise and I watched children paddling to school, parents going to work, mist rising over the lake, the colours coming back into the world. I can truly say it was one of the most magical mornings of my life.

It was definitely some kind of karmic cockroach, sent to educate me.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 16/04/2024 20:52

Yes! I am an old experienced (therefore expensive) and well-qualified teacher, but when I applied for ft teaching jobs after being part-time for years and years since dc were born, nobody would give me a job. I applied for loads, some of them at schools I really didn't want to work at tbh.

I was getting very disheartened and was about to give up, when a job at my ideal school, came up. They snapped me up and promoted me within less than a year! It's also down the road from dh's job, and from the school ds will be going to in September, so we can travel in together. I'm soooooo glad I didn't get any of those other jobs. It was meant to be!

Fantina · 16/04/2024 20:53

Why, if I do not believe that everything happens for a reason, do I still find this thread so lovely? I hope we can all triumph over our adversity.

justaboutdonenow · 16/04/2024 21:06

I worked in food retail, got the sack thanks to an entitled & aggressive customer.

It was the kick up the arse I needed to go self employed & I have absolutely no regrets beyond wishing I'd done it years ago, I have built up a lovely client base & although financially poorer it really isn't a bother as I live frugally & both my mental health & work/life balance are significantly better.

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 16/04/2024 21:30

I definitely do not want to make this a woe is me or how great I am post but I was a victim of gun crime some years ago. I miraculously survived and, from that moment on, decided to sort my shit out and do all the things I should have been doing dreamed of but thought would be unattainable to me.
This meant getting into IT (wanted a well paying role I enjoyed, starting a business,.clearing debts and a few other things.
I'd never want to experience it again but I know that it shifted my focus and so much good came out of it.

Tiamaria86 · 16/04/2024 21:38

I was due to go on a work trip down to London. I was so excited, couldn't wait. Amazing networking opportunities and all expenses paid with a fab hotel and fancy meals. I was 6 weeks pregnant at the time and nobody knew.

2 days before, my boss decides actually he wants to go along with my colleague instead of me. I was devastated.

They were involved in a horror crash on the motorway and my boss suffered serious injuries. He is OK now but there is no way baby would have survived that.

She is 2 now.

Nbuip · 16/04/2024 21:45

Hi @Sidewaysbackways . Hope you’re ok. I had an awful time around a year ago. I wished so much that things could have been different. Now, with hindsight, whilst I still wish I hadn’t gone through what I had, I can see that actually, things could have been even worse in the long run had i not gone through that bad time when I did. Sorry if this sounds cryptic, I didn’t want to put myself. But basically, despite feeling like I wanted to take my life, I can honestly say that life is a million times better now. Keep going and things will change even without you realising x

Nbuip · 16/04/2024 21:45

*out myself

Covetthee · 16/04/2024 21:49

Got 3 jobs offers at once, decided which one to take, called to accept offer but they needed me to go to their north office location for training for a few weeks which I couldn’t do at the time so took the second job offer instead.

met my husband at this job 😊 been 15 lovely years with him.

IjustbelieveinMe · 16/04/2024 21:51

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/04/2024 20:48

I was once on a boat in Vietnam. During the night a giant cockroach jumped straight onto my face. I screamed, ran onto the deck and spent the rest of the night half awake in a deck chair.

The sun started to rise and I watched children paddling to school, parents going to work, mist rising over the lake, the colours coming back into the world. I can truly say it was one of the most magical mornings of my life.

It was definitely some kind of karmic cockroach, sent to educate me.

Love this

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 16/04/2024 21:58

Sidewaysbackways · 16/04/2024 18:27

Having a bit of a shit time at the mo, with one thing and another, job, kids, health…
I'm trying to tell myself everything happens for a reason, even if I don’t know what the reason is yet….
Trying to hold onto hope that things will get better in time.
Could anyone give me some words of wisdom and a chin up for the future. 💐

It's not so much "everything happens for a reason" (I don't believe it does, as a rule) but more "shit happens, what matters is how you deal with it".

yoshiblue · 16/04/2024 22:00

We got our second choice primary but subsequently found out our son had SEN. Second choice school has been amazing, original first choice has a poor reputation for SEN and other things TBH. It was meant to be!

Just missed out on a big tech job, mega £££ and share options, sounded like a dream job. They've ended up making large layoffs since and actually got a much more suitable job 9 months later. It took a bit of time, but things worked out for the better.

Will be channeling the 'things happen for a reason' for secondary school application/outcomes too!

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 16/04/2024 22:03

Minir one but...My friend rang me to ask if I could collect her boyfriend as her car had broken down and he was stranded. It was Christmas week and he couldn't get a taxi. I was annoyed that he didn't ring his own friends etc.

He's normally a nice guy but I kind of cursed him for not trying harder re the taxi etc. Then cursed him when it turned out he also had a colleague with him. Thought he was a total CF to assume I would drop the colleague home too but I did.

His colleague is now my boyfriend of two years plus.

Queenfierce · 16/04/2024 22:09

Love this thread I have no stories to share sadly

LifeWithADHD · 16/04/2024 22:12

Tiamaria86 · 16/04/2024 21:38

I was due to go on a work trip down to London. I was so excited, couldn't wait. Amazing networking opportunities and all expenses paid with a fab hotel and fancy meals. I was 6 weeks pregnant at the time and nobody knew.

2 days before, my boss decides actually he wants to go along with my colleague instead of me. I was devastated.

They were involved in a horror crash on the motorway and my boss suffered serious injuries. He is OK now but there is no way baby would have survived that.

She is 2 now.

💜🥹

LifeBeginsNow · 16/04/2024 22:13

I worked in sales for years and climbed the ladder gaining promotions and more money and felt trapped - you can't really leave when you become used to that money. Or so you think.
Then my health took a turn for the worse and I was forced to stop. Life is drastically different. I no longer work (although I am looking to go back part time shortly). I much prefer not having to stress about sales figures and targets and being out on the road. Plus I've gained another child who I get to spend time with.
Obviously the ill health sucks but covid hit at just the right time too and I was kicked out with redundancy (more because I was too ill to work) and a payout so perfect 👌 for me.

PlatinumDollFace · 16/04/2024 22:27

I have two. I was in a job I loved, suited my two young kids and family life but wasn't the best paid and we were really struggling. Jobs were being reviewed and I decided if things were changing, I might as well apply to a different dept. I did, and got two promotions within the space of a year.

I had been having issues with my gallbladder for 6 months and without fail, would have an attack every 6/7 weeks. Finally admitted to hospital for more tests. Gallbladder was ok but they discovered an unrelatable blood cancer. I had no symptoms and only 5% of people diagnosed are found at this early stage. I'm now frequently monitored for any slight change.... And not a single gallbladder attack since and that's been 3 years.

Happybirthdaytotheground · 16/04/2024 22:30

my husband had to move halls 2 weeks before the start of uni. Into mine where we met and have been married 11 years.
I suffered 5 miscarriages in a row. Not saying they happen for a reason but for some reason this little boy was meant to be. He is the light and joy in our lives and worth all of the heartache. I’d do it again in a heartbeat for him.