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Sidewaysbackways · 16/04/2024 18:27

Having a bit of a shit time at the mo, with one thing and another, job, kids, health…
I'm trying to tell myself everything happens for a reason, even if I don’t know what the reason is yet….
Trying to hold onto hope that things will get better in time.
Could anyone give me some words of wisdom and a chin up for the future. 💐

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QuickFetchTheCoffee · 16/04/2024 23:02

Lovely thread. I can't think of anything of my own, but I do believe everything happens for a reason - not because of any divine or spiritual reason but just human nature itself and coincidences.
I greatly admire people who have the courage and determination to turn a bad situation around and find the bright side, or grab an opportunity when one door closes and another opens. The human spirit can truly be a wonderful thing.

Farahfawsett · 16/04/2024 23:04

Years ago I went for an internal promotion in a company I'd been with for more than a decade. It had essentially been promised to me, but at the last minute it was given to a man who was part of the all-boys-club culture of the time.

The new promotion role was part of a company restructure and mostly managerial meaning the new employee took over managing my team (but not me).

What they hadn't accounted for was the bonus aspect of our salaries.

New man spent so much time managing and training a large number of employees, he never hit his targets, despite working ridiculously long hours.

I, on the other hand with no staff to manage, suddenly had lots more time to focus on my clients, smashed every target, whilst leaving at 5pm on the dot every day (something I'd never been able to do previously).

I had the highest salary of my life that year; I was paid considerably more than many of the senior staff.

The next year I was pregnant and before they could change the bonus structure, they had to pay my maternity pay - a percentage of my overall earnings from the previous year (so again a massive pay out).

Then the company was bought out and I had the opportunity to take redundancy, which I did as my husband had just taken a job which involved moving. My redundancy was based on my last annual salary and again was massive, allowing me to take several years off to be a SAHM.

Had I got that "promotion" all I actually would have got was a flashy job title, shit pay, a lot of stress and some long working hours.

DorisDoesDoncaster · 16/04/2024 23:31

Great thread, thank you OP.

I spend too much head space regretting things I did or didn’t do/say, so this thread and all the contributors are very much appreciated.

Orders76 · 17/04/2024 00:14

Biggest probably
Friend late for theatre, eventually arrived after we'd missed good bit of start so went to pub.
Some lad skipped his work shift and in same pub.
Married a long time 😀

CrazyCatLover · 18/04/2024 10:49

Wedding cancelled during covid.... very upsetting at the time but finally getting married this summer . This time very small family only in a nice country pub instead of spending 17k plus on one day...

Cygnetmad · 18/04/2024 10:50

I hate that old chestnut. it's just not true :(

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