AIBU that the other children are not my responsibility

[Youngandbeautifuliwish]

I am aware I may get flamed.
DD has complex medical needs and SEN but is academically able.
we have thankfully a very good EHCP which is fully funded by the LA rather than the budget going to the school and so the LA Employ her 1–1 directly and she follows DD so when DD is in school she is in school
when DD is at home she is at home etc
we are very thankful and it does mean that all DD 1-1 interventions are done and she is dedicated solely to DD.
recently this years school teacher is clearly not happy with the system and keeps raising complaints / changing the routine and being a bit huffy about things and saying things like “ she is not the only child with sen in the class “ aiming at the amount of intervention her 1-1 gives her compared to what the others get. Now she is very complex which is why.
I understand the frustration but we fought hard and along time to get all the support in place it wasn’t something that happened over night.
previous years have been fine and the school are very understanding in terms of management but this year has unraveled a bit and is causing EBSA and school refusal.
I guess usually they can stretch the 1-1 as they please and she is overwhelmed maybe in the class so would like extra help
but I don’t believe this should come from my DD package and however much I wish I could improve sen provision I am not going to allow it to effect my daughter ?

Without knowing what your daughter’s needs are it’s difficult to decide if the teacher is being completely unreasonable. Not every child who has a 1-1 needs them every minute of the school day. It can make life a little easier for all involved if another adult can sit with a table of children while also helping their 1-1.

Can’t hack it? There isn’t a teacher alive who can give a class of 30 children exactly what they need, when they need it. You’re confusing a teacher with a governess.

It really really isn't the case anymore that primary classes are usually allocated a ta. Often you might have one for the morning only, or part of the morning. Often they will get pulled out to work elsewhere. You muddle through as best you can, meeting nobody's needs. Of course, that doesn't excuse it if this ta is being used inappropriately. But I really think it's important for people to realise that the way it was ten years ago isn't the way it is now.

Also, the chair of governors doesn't have any say I the running of the school, so wouldn't have anything to do with staff allocation.

It’s irrelevant if she didn’t need one then the LA would not be employing one directly for for her
they are not sending the school ehcp budget they are employing someone specifically for her.
its not for anyone else to decide whether they think she needs one it’s already been confirmed and set up.

DD has a similar set up and in the very rare occasions teachers tried this type of approach, her (incredibly devoted, amazing) TA put a stop to it immediately.

I'd escalate it to the Head asap, OP.

Nope, not your problem. You need to put your own child first. I would probably make a complaint about the teacher as she sounds very unprofessional