Is punching furniture aggressive and potentially DV?

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Please can we have a range of opinions.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Not sure you’re going to get a range of opinions

Thanks.

Just trying to phrase it neutrally.

Depends.

If it was a one off in a long term relationship, it was out of character and things were full on heated at the time, then id say no.

It literally is, yes

Yes, and it's often the precursor to actually punching a partner.

Yes

Yes

I don’t know but it’s absolutely pathetic and cringeworthy

I used to think no when it was happening, wouldn't have crossed my mind. But then he raised his fist to me. So yes, definitely.

Yes

Its intended to instil fear. Someone witnessing it will rationalise "they'd never hit me" but the punching furniture gives a sense of fear and a desire to not upset that person. It's about control.

Unless they are regularly damaging property in general. At work. At other people's houses. The supermarket. Hairdressers. Launderette. In which case they're a massive tw@ and should really be arrested.
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If they're regularly doing it at home then they're a massive tw@ and should really be arrested.

yes! It was doors first, then it was me when I split with him!

Thanks. Someone here is trying to tell me it's a sign of frustration and not an issue,

Not necessarily

We have a couple of "depends" and "not necessarily" posts amongst all the "yes" comments. Can you elaborate?

It may well be a display of frustration, but that also shows an inability to control their emotions. Much like punching a face.

I had holes in my interior doors for years before i got my first black eye - it only ever goes one way, however long it might take. Best not to wait around to find out.

This is my take, too.

But I'm being told it's a MH issue (the person in question had put off taking anti anxiety meds).

Well if my DH punched furniture it'd be totally out of character and something that'd never happened before. We've been together 20 years and have DD17 and DS12. If he punched furniture now, I wouldn't think he was a DV perpetrator.

If we'd not been together long or if we'd only recently had kids, then I'd be getting out pronto if he'd punched furniture. So, that's what I mean by "depends"

Yes .

If someone's mental health condition is making them violent and aggressive you'd be very reasonable to ask them to leave.

Thanks @Dacadactyl

Yes. It is violence pure and simple, intended to intimidate someone else.

Do they punch walls at work due to MH? Thought not.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/recognising-domestic-abuse/

In their run-down of "what is domestic abuse":

• Threats: making angry gestures; using physical size to intimidate; shouting you down; destroying your possessions; breaking things; punching walls; wielding a knife or a gun; threatening to kill or harm you and the children; threatening to kill or harm family pets; threats of suicide.