Disabled nappy changes

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Hello lovely mumsnetters!

I'm looking for some assistance please. My amazing ds is 4 and is SEN. He's non verbal and is currently still in nappies. I'm finding it harder and harden to change his nappy in public place. Ie themeparks, restaurants, the zoo etc. This is due to the size of the changing facilities being made for babies. I appreciate most 4 year olds are out of nappies however, a lot aren't. I'm not even sure how to go about this but I want to campaign to bring awareness to this issue that I and many mums are facing. Before I email my local mp and the British toilet association, I just wanted some advice from my fellow mumsnetters.

Is this problem as big as I think? Aibu to raise this issue? Thanks

My whole life is planned around the toilet, on the rare occasion I get out. It's impossible. There are few changing places toilets in my county & few open after 17:00 so my options are very limited as I'm hoisted.

Thank you everyone for sharing and I'm sorry to hear of your struggles too. If anyone wants to share rough locations of places you struggle I will include these on my emails. You ladies have inspired me to go further with this. Thank you!

I don’t know if it helps, but if your 4 year old still uses a pram rather than wheelchair, changing in that laid down might help another few months. I know it’s not a solution, but it keeps him off the floor a while longer

Ds 17 is changed lying down. He can do it standing up if there is no other option but he finds this difficult and can become aggressive. We plan outings around changing places and accessible toilets that we know are big enough to accommodate him lying on the floor. He wouldn't cope with being changed in a vehicle.

I would love to hear from the 29% of people who said YABU.

@evilharpy me too! As all posts on this thread are supportive...

I was so impressed recently when I saw the local Morrisons accessible toilet. They have a full adult size table, a hoist, toilet that can raise up and down, handrails where needed.

It is something people are campaigning for so hopefully things will improve. I've noticed that national trust by me have changing places toilets now and some motorway services.

It is so tough
Local to us in West London we have at least 10 changing places toilets, usually in leisure centres or shopping centres, but I know that is not the norm from speaking to families I work with as a children's physio.
Merlin theme parks (legoland, Chessington etc) all have a changing places toilet, and Butlins at Bognor has one in their new pool - just for suggestions of places which do have in case it's helpful. I have had a moan at Butlins that that there should be another in main entertainment complex as pool closed in evenings, but at least they have 1

I am aware this is a problem from family members but didnt realise how bad. I am in SE London. There is a Changing Places facility in the local shopping centre and cinema, but the next two after that are in hospitals. 3 miles away in opposite directions.

The country park near us has been fundraising and recently had one installed.

Given that public toilet provision in general has gone to shit (pun intended) I think this will be unfortunately an uphill battle.