To feel uncomfortable by my daughter's bond with her father?

[Mumoftwinsandasingleton]

I can't tell if I'm just being jealous or if I have reason to be uncomfortable with my 3 year old and my husband's bond. They are so tight that I have zero influence over my daughter and she doesn't want to spend any time with me. She loves her dad dearly and I find it sweet but I also wish she would love to spend time with me. My husband was away for one full week and my daughter was so sweet to me. I really cherished those moments. Since he came back, she treats me like dirt and doesn't want to spend any time with me. I suggested reading her a bedtime story and she immediately cried that she wanted just her dad to do it. She's like this all the time even before the holiday.

It doesn't help that my husband seems to see her as his favourite child. He always wants to spend time with her and loves her dearly. Sometimes when I'm talking to him, my 3 year old will interrupt and he'll carry on a short conversation with her as if she's more important. Then he'll look back to me and say, "so what were you saying?" I kind of feel a bit replaced by her but also know it's all completely innocent. I can't tell if I'm just a weird person who should not be bothered by their bond or if I'm being reasonable.

Further context: I didn't grow up with a father, so have no idea what is normal.
I have spoken to my husband but he says that he's the fun one and I shouldn't take it personally
He gets quite frustrated whenever I suggest our 3 year old is the favourite
He mentions that our 7 month old twins are great but that the bond is stronger between him and our 3 year old because the babies need me more right now

It will even out, and you’ll remember this when she’s giving him grief in 10 years.

For now, I’d let it be because of the twins.

In a few months, start slowly working towards her spending more time with you. Kids shouldn’t generally be allowed to play favourite as it perpetuates a cycle - the less time they spend with the less favoured parent, the less they want to.

Two things though - your husband should not allow her to interrupt your conversation - she is more than old enough to learn it’s rude to interrupt - ‘mummy and I are talking, wait a minute’, so talk to him about that. Similarly, she shouldn’t be rude to you - 3 year olds aren’t called threenagers for nothing, but have have a clear system of time out and loss of minor privileges

I think you should hold your hands up to heaven and thank The Almighty that you have a loving, engaged and hands on hubby.
I wish my ex had been like that.
He did nothing except stand over me and criticise my parenting

I think you sound a bit needy/jealous. Being upset that your husband let her interrupt “like she’s more important” is a really odd dynamic.

I’ve worked in early years for years. I have seen many many many children cry because it’s the other parent picking them up. It’s so common for children to go through phases of having a favourite parent. This will pass. I promise.

Thanks everyone. Me and my husband have worked through it and it's great at the moment. We now take it in turns for bedtime (he'll do twins whilst I put the 3 year old down and vice versa). I also have one to one time with my 3 year old. She's become so polite in the past week and we've really bonded again. Definitely feeling much happier now. Thanks again