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To hate having my sentences finished?

28 replies

Justforexample · 12/04/2024 21:19

I met a woman today who did it.

’Does she sleep well?’ (About my baby DD)
I said ‘yes she’s not too bad, she generally just wakes -‘
’when she’s ill.’

(no I was going to say once a night)

’does she see her grandparents much, do they help?’
’not really, my parents are -‘
’not really into babies?’
(I was going to say dead!)

I realised my dad used to do it all the time and it gave me the rage!

OP posts:
JacquesHarlow · 12/04/2024 21:21

I don’t know why people do this. I’d love an explanation.

SocksAndTheCity · 12/04/2024 21:22

YANBU. I have a friend who does this constantly and also never gets it right, but him talking straight across me makes me forget what I was originally going to say so I often can't even correct it.

It's fucking infuriating, especially since I've lost count of the times I've asked him not to do it.

Beginningless · 12/04/2024 21:25

I know a couple of people who mouth along to what others are saying, almost trying to anticipate their words as they come out. Very strange, I think it must be anxiety.

Kijuity · 12/04/2024 21:26

I do this but I have ADHD

Mumoftwinsandasingleton · 12/04/2024 21:28

I regularly complete other people's sentences with about 95% accuracy. I really can't stand when I do it and I have no idea why I keep doing it. I think I'm just trying help in some way but then I regret it afterwards. I apologise on behalf of everyone else for doing that

IncompleteSenten · 12/04/2024 21:28

Oh I hate it. Drives me potty.

In my doormat days I actually meekly shut up and nodded along as they finished my fucking sentence with nothing close to what I was going to say.

I don't any more.

I think they think they're super empathic (is that a word?) and just so in tune with you.
They're not.
They're twats.

IncompleteSenten · 12/04/2024 21:29

Maybe I meant empathetic.

Octypuss · 12/04/2024 21:31

Beginningless · 12/04/2024 21:25

I know a couple of people who mouth along to what others are saying, almost trying to anticipate their words as they come out. Very strange, I think it must be anxiety.

A friend of mine does this - she quietly says the final few words of your sentences at almost exactly the same time as you say them. I have no idea why she does it but it is really irritating.

Mumaway · 12/04/2024 21:37

I am one of those people, and I frustrate myself (almost as much as I frustrate my DH). I really don't know why I do it. I do live my life at 100mph, and am pretty bright and quick thinking.
I think quite often though I just want conversations to be over so I can get on with what comes next. I recognise in myself though that I struggle to identify appropriate gaps in group conversations for me to speak, meaning I swing wildly from saying nothing to never shutting up. Maybe I'm just socially inept....
My DH is incredibly laid back, and also has these MASSIVE pauses when he speaks- long enough I think he has finished, when it turns out he was just pondering what to say next. I don't know if I'm just trying to fill the pauses??

Bambi1449 · 12/04/2024 21:40

One of my friends does this ALL the time. I really wish sometimes she'd just listen to me and let me finish without trying to finish for me with something that isn't what I was going to say AT ALL. It's really annoying, especially when I'm trying to tell her something funny and she completely RUINS my comic timing!

hopscotcher · 12/04/2024 21:42

LOL, I have a friend who does this, completely changing what you were going to say! I've picked her up on it but she does it anyway.

ButterflyKu · 12/04/2024 21:43

I think I do this sometimes and I have no clue why😅 I think I do it to show the person that I’m listening to what they’re saying and I completely get them. It’s annoying but I can’t stop, I don’t know why!!

Isitsummersomewhere · 12/04/2024 21:46

My mother does this and it drives me nuts!

especially because it’s often about something not predictable.

i love her dearly but i want to punch her when she does this! 😬😂

once I was trying to explain how I felt about my marriage breakdown and she kept finishing my sentences- of all the times to shut up and listen!!

it’s one thing to do it about everyday stuff, but not when people are baring their soul!

why do people do this?!

Vacantstare · 12/04/2024 21:48

ButterflyKu · 12/04/2024 21:43

I think I do this sometimes and I have no clue why😅 I think I do it to show the person that I’m listening to what they’re saying and I completely get them. It’s annoying but I can’t stop, I don’t know why!!

I do it too! It's mainly due to anxiety as I find it uncomfortable looking at the other person whilst waiting for them to finish what they're saying so it makes me feel less awkward and as though I get what they're saying!

I didn't think it was that annoying but now I'll make a conscious effort not to do it🤣

GraceyBeaker · 12/04/2024 21:49

I must be a bit slow because I would find this impossible. It takes me a second to process a sentence even after the person has completed it. I could never jump in and complete
somebody else’s sentence

Allfur · 12/04/2024 21:50

It's the long ...........pauses mid sentence that probably do it

SiriAlexa · 12/04/2024 21:51

OP, I have a bad habit of doing this. I think it’s because I’m often stressed and my mind is racing ahead. I need to stop!

hottchocolatte · 12/04/2024 21:52

I think a lot of people with autism and adhd do this - me included but I have learned not to do it.

Mumoftwinsandasingleton · 12/04/2024 21:53

Mumaway · 12/04/2024 21:37

I am one of those people, and I frustrate myself (almost as much as I frustrate my DH). I really don't know why I do it. I do live my life at 100mph, and am pretty bright and quick thinking.
I think quite often though I just want conversations to be over so I can get on with what comes next. I recognise in myself though that I struggle to identify appropriate gaps in group conversations for me to speak, meaning I swing wildly from saying nothing to never shutting up. Maybe I'm just socially inept....
My DH is incredibly laid back, and also has these MASSIVE pauses when he speaks- long enough I think he has finished, when it turns out he was just pondering what to say next. I don't know if I'm just trying to fill the pauses??

I'm exactly like this. My husband is not chilled so regularly tells me to stop finishing his sentences. I'm always very apologetic afterwards but then still end up doing it the next time!

bradpittsbathwater · 12/04/2024 21:54

Some people talk really slowly and pause or almost stop mid sentence. Do you have a tendency to do that?

MILTOBE · 12/04/2024 21:56

I understand how it happens with some people who seem to almost go into a coma halfway through a sentence, but it happens when people are talking quite quickly, too. It's the biggest sign someone isn't listening to you and thinks what they have to say is more important.

Allfur · 12/04/2024 22:00

What if they say exactly what you were about to say, isn't that a sign they understand you?

Noicant · 12/04/2024 22:02

I do this to DH, it’s his long winded, slow explanations and me trying to hurry him up (god love him he’s fantastic but dear god is he a slow talker sometimes)

GraceyBeaker · 12/04/2024 22:04

I do have this done to me often but I’ve been told I give up halfway through sentences. I just assume the other person has got the point and can figure out the rest for themselves. I never realised I did it until somebody told me, then I really started noticing.

Noicant · 12/04/2024 22:05

Mumaway · 12/04/2024 21:37

I am one of those people, and I frustrate myself (almost as much as I frustrate my DH). I really don't know why I do it. I do live my life at 100mph, and am pretty bright and quick thinking.
I think quite often though I just want conversations to be over so I can get on with what comes next. I recognise in myself though that I struggle to identify appropriate gaps in group conversations for me to speak, meaning I swing wildly from saying nothing to never shutting up. Maybe I'm just socially inept....
My DH is incredibly laid back, and also has these MASSIVE pauses when he speaks- long enough I think he has finished, when it turns out he was just pondering what to say next. I don't know if I'm just trying to fill the pauses??

Oh god the long pause… I recognise that, I think Dh has finished too. It’s really annoying because it takes forever to have a conversation and I don’t know when the topic is going to end.