Need help with daughters weight

[DarcyHargrove]

My daughter is overweight, weirdly just round her middle, with skinny arms and legs!

She’s always hungry! And so so lazy. She will not do any exercise. She hates going for walks, refuses to ride her bike, will not to any sports etc. Our diets are healthy but she just eats so much. She’s only 10 but already over 5 stone.

Any advice??

Whilst exercise is important, it's what she's eating that causes weight gain & for now at least, you are presumably in full control of this. Quietly and gradually this needs to change ideally before secondary school when she will have more freedom and choice.

Stop buying rubbish snacks, limit the amount of fatty or fried food she has, no takeaways or fast food, encourage snacking on fruit and veg, add more veg to her plate so she doesn't see small portions. Don't use food as a treat - if you get her out on a walk offer to do facepacks together when you get home rather than buy a hot chocolate when you're out. These little things really add up. If she queries tell her your it's a cost thing. I would also keep trying to find something to get her moving - I hated sport & exercise as a child but would happily go bowling for example. And if your relationship is strained, find a something to do together - trampolining, local am dram society, a walk to town to get your nails done, walk around a shopping centre for a few hours - anything to bond and move more without her realising either are the intention and she just sees a nice thing to do with her mum which it hopefully will become.

We don’t really get the chance to do anything nice together because of the toddler. I wish I had more time to spend with just her.

@DarcyHargrove

My sister was overweight her entire life, and our mum did her best to feed her healthy foods and watch her portion sizes.
Then all of a sudden at 16, sister miraculously dropped all the weight and grew into a beautiful young woman.
Hang in there. Your daughter will too.

My now 11 year old put on a bit of weight on her tummy last year and it turned out she was constipated? Any chance that has happened here?

I also find it hard to believe that a child of 10 doesn’t enjoy any movement at all? Is she uncomfortable in some way? Does she like dancing or roller skating or swimming or anything really you could encourage. I wouldn’t force her out on walks - but have family walks or say that in future we are walking to the shops/an activity whatever is natural. Walking is very boring for children so they would need to be walking somewhere.

There must be some ways she can move her body more that she'd enjoy.

walking - can she use Pokémon app to hunt for Pokémon's - my DD would moan at 'going for a walk' but will hunt Pokémon's happily during a walk.

waterpark - fun swimming, climbing over inflatable obstacle course, walking up to flumes etc

Trampoline park - high intensity and I've never met a kid who doesn't love this

indoor rock climbing?

indoor play centre like a ninja warrior type place with lots of monkey bars etc?

a 'cool' dance class like cheer, acro, aerial silks?

most of the above the toddler could enjoy too?

The only way to help is to give her smaller portion. Lots of kids eat out of boredom or just because it's tasty but encouraging a drink of water and waiting should help. As for exercise walking will be the easiest and cheapest. Even if its just walking to the shops. A trampoline in the garden along with her favourite music will also do wonders.
Kids are increasingly overweight nowadays so good on you for caring enough to do something about it.

Why do people post this utter drivel??

Hang in there. Your daughter will too.

How on earth do you know that she's not going to end up adding to the child or teenage obesity statistics?

You don't, you actually have no clue so why would you say that?

Also interesting how that‘s exactly the age when lots of girls start to hate their weight and end with (often concealed) but lifelong issues regarding food.

Yet from the outside it only their physical appearance and ability to slim down that is acknowledged and applauded.