To be tired of her constantly telling me her dress size?

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I work in an office in the city centre and my colleague will probably go and buy new clothes every weeks or she’ll show me photos of her in her new outfits - I never ask to see.

She always tells me how a size 8 is absolutely massive on her and how she’s bought the size 6 but is going to exchange it for a 4. Honestly she probably tells me that every time.

I’m not quite sure what she wants me to say? Congratulations for being the smallest size available? She’s average height too.

I would ask her if everything is ok as she seems to be quite focused on her dress size.

Next time say 'are you sure, won't a 4 be too tight on you'. Or ask her why she keeps buying a 6 when she knows they are too big.

Just say - really? I thought you looked more like a 10

The burden of being teeny tiny is obviously eating away at her brain cells, poor love.

She sounds like she may have ED. Is she genuinely a 4, at average height. That is a very small size for a grown woman unless she's v short. It could be her own issue rather than deliberately trying to fish for compliments, or cast aspersions on bigger sizes. Does she seem insecure? Do you notice if she eats much?
Sorry, I guess it's best just to smile and say oh that's nice and then move the subject on. If you look concerned it might either fuel attention seeking or distress her if she's having ED.

Reply with "oh Sharon, that's so annoying, why don't you make a note of your size on your phone so when you keep forgetting you can double check it and save yourself some time keep buying the wrong size"

She wants validation, so be boring. 'Mmmm." "Actually I need to get on with work now, sorry." "Mmmm."

She'll find a new target if you don't feed her.

I have a feeling this is one of those people you smile and nod at.

My sister used to do this. Constantly moaning about everything being too big on her. Very boring.

Maybe she is trying g to give you a hint if you're a bit of a porker.

If you are also slim then it does sound odd.

'Goodness me, you've bought the wrong size AGAIN, this is becoming a habit!'

I had a friend like this. We used to go shopping together and she'd literally shove the label in my face "Look, it's size 6!!!". I never knew what I was meant to say. Did she want a prize or something?

Would you be bothered enough to start a thread if she'd said a size 20 was too tight for her, so she swapped for a size 22 but will probably have to go back for a size 24?

Don't bother with "clever" petty swipes back unless you actually want to escalate things. The goal is to shut this down, no? Not make it a bigger thing.

Agreed.

Are you overweight OP? If so, it could be that she's having a nasty pop at you.

I would want to say
Fuck off with your constant need to tell me what size dress you take when I couldn’t care less you self obsessed bint.
In reality I would give a fake smile/ grimace then eye roll when she turns away.

She definitely eats. I’m definitely leaning towards it’s an attention thing if I’m honest.

" You know you could shop from the children's range and not have to pay VAT, don't you? You could save a fortune. "

I’m a 10, maybe sometimes a 12 in fitted jeans.

I genuinely wouldn’t want to be a 4, I just wouldn’t. Sure I’d like to slim down a bit more and be an 8 and I’m slowly doing that - I just don’t broadcast it because it’s no one’s business.

Also you don’t need to use language like “porker”, I know MN love to fat shame though.

It’s very likely for attention and validation from others. There’s someone like this in my office, only with their age instead of weight. Some usual variation of “that customer couldn’t believe I’m 45! They were so surprised at my age! Can you believe it?! They couldn’t believe it!”

I understand - I’m always a bit chuffed when someone tells me I look younger than my age - but the constant prodding and badgering to get me to act astonished and say “wow I know, I still can’t believe you’re not 18!” is very grating. I just nod and change the subject/get very absorbed in my work.

Body Bore.

Change the subject - it’s not good for obsessives to get airtime.

Has she recently lost weight and feeling very pleased about it? It can be quite a heady experience and if that's the case she may calm down with it after a while. If she's always been slim, I'd guess there's something in her life that's not going so well at the moment, work, relationship, some issue, and so she's focusing her attention on the thing she thinks is going well. Whatever it is, I'd say it's highly unlikely anything to do with you, jealousy of you, thinking you're fat, or indeed thinking about you at all. Your just her audience and vehicle to feel good about her dress size.

Does she have an eating disorder?

Just tell her to try things on or buy the right size.

I once lost a lot of weight and was on holiday with a friend, about her size maybe one size up. I bought something and she said she liked it and I said they had it in several colours and she immediately said 'oh no it would be far too big on me'. Because she just couldn't seem to accept I was now her size, as I was always the 'big' one of the group.
I do find it more common for slim women to keep going on about how fat they are - whether they think this is a bonding thing (we're all struggling with weight) or what but it's annoying when said to someone who really IS struggling to lose weight.