Height restriction - who was BU?

[TigerOnTour]

I went to a thing today and there was a simulator/game that visitors could go on. I was accompanied by person A who was 146cm and person B who was 136cm tall. You had to be 140cm to go on it. A and B measured themselves and only A was allowed on by the ride operator. B was upset. B said A should have not gone on it because B wasn't tall enough. Should I have stopped A going on to save B's feelings?
WIBU to let A go on the ride?

OP did you really go full-on, trying-to-be-impartial, Person A/B/XYZ when you are just talking about your own children? 🤣

Sorry, that really struck me as funny. Of course the younger kid is unreasonable! Rules are rules and he can ride it when he is older. It’s just part of life’s everyday challenges. All kids face little disappointments like this. They can’t control what their siblings get to do, it just turns them into little tyrants.

Unfortunately we have to learn that life isn’t fair at times, when he is bigger then B can ride the simulator until then he misses out.

I wouldn’t have stopped A going on as they are tall enough.

It’s a bit of a none issue. Older sibling gets the bigger rides younger one is too old for, and in return has to suck up the stuff they feel they’re too old for. Younger sibling is presumably about 7 given the height so fair enough they’re upset but it’s just one of those things and they’ll get over it. All totally normal in any family with more than 1 that isn’t twins. Encourage them to think about what their sibling was allowed at their age not about what they’re allowed now.

Many adults from different countries are smaller than 150cm. And many in the UK.

Nobody is unreasonable here.

Child 1 shouldn’t be penalised for being older. He was very reasonable not to gloat.

Child 2 isn’t unreasonable to be jealous.

You did the right thing allowing child 1 to go on the ride.

What? Of course eldest child should go on. I can't believe I'm reading such nonsense.

@WhichEllie just for the drama really 😄I like the idea that people might think that I, aged 43, might be pissed off with someone over this!

This is what we get for the way schools are run these days. Everyone always gets a prize, nobody ever loses etc.

A person's height should not be a reason to limit his opportunities or privileges. It must be understood that the operator's decision was objective and did not depend on personal preference or respect for anyone. Therefore, person A should not be blamed for the operator's decision. Intervention on your part in this situation is not justified.

This. YWNBU but your youngest was 'silently crying' not holding a grudge or taking anger out on anyone. Fine to stick to your guns but sympathise and maybe do something they particularly enjoy next time.

I’m amazed you’ve gotten to ages 9 and I’m guessing 11? And never had this issue come up.
Mine are 8 and 10 and the youngest has accepted for years that she is too small to go on some things that her sibling can go on.
She doesn’t sulk about it. She knows that when she’s bigger she will get her turn

Please think about the message you are sending out to the older child.
My brother was less than two years younger than me but we still had the same bedtimes, pocket money etc but when we were out on our own I was responsible for him, according to my mum. If we were late home or he fell over or anything else (nothing serious or dangerous ever happened) I was the one in trouble.
Everything was equal, so I just accepted that as a child, even though I remember feeling a bit hard done by at times as we got older. The killer though was when I was an adult she let slip that when I was 16 and got a saturday job 7.30am till 5pm she had raised his pocket money to what I was earning so he did'nt feel left out.
Do not be that parent.

@classicslove don't worry, I'm not that parent!

However, I do feel sad for the younger child sometimes because it is hard to see your big bro get lots of independence etc, especially now the older one is at secondary.

My own older sibling was always treated preferentially (not necessarily to do with age appropriateness) as a child. Things like getting a nicer chair, having the biggest room, always going first. My dad believed and explicitly stated that the older child should have more and better. So I try to be careful not to do this but obviously need to be conscious of my own bias here!

Urgh. My mum used to stop me doing stuff if my younger sister couldn't also do it. She also made me wait till a certain age to do things (ears pierced particularly sticks in my mind, but there are loads of other examples) and then let my sister do it at the same time as me. Also, if we had a fight it would always be my fault, as I was 'old enough to know better', even when my sister reached the age I had been when this statement had been used (and beyond).

I spent a lot of my childhood watching my older siblngs be allowed to do things I was not, however I didnt appreciate at the time it was because they were much older than me. It did however leave me with the "I can do anything they can" attitude.

But my older siblings did also use it as a bullying tatic as they always played up the "look what I can do that you arent allowed to", so please do watch out for that.

There was a post recently about how to help siblings get on/ how to stop them having a poor relationship. I’d say stopping the older sibling doing things because the younger one is too young or small is a sure fire way of making sure the older one resents the younger one, who will get their time to do things when they reach the right age or size.

If you have children of different ages and heights, there will always be things like are more suitable for one and not the other. It evens out over time.

My older sister always had the bigger bedroom but preferential treatment stopped there. The older one will naturally get different experiences, but also should be stepping up to support round the house more. So it's swings and roundabouts.

I don't think you did anything wrong. Maybe the littler child can choose another activity, or you can tell him you'll take him back there when he's older.

I think it's ridiculous to suggest a child shouldn't do something till all kids are able to do it... how boring for older siblings!
When we went to alton towers we did some rides with my eldest and one parent would wait with younger ones.. then some rides with the smaller kids and eldest would wait with a parent.
You are just going to drum up such resentment from the eldest if you prevent them from doing things.
And if they are the sane age and one happens to be taller... well that's just life.
I lump this is with those people who give presents to younger siblings on elder siblings birthdays just to shut them up.
Everything can not always be about all of the children. It's good for kids to have their different interests skills and special days etc You can do this in a way that doesn't piss everyone off if you make sure all the kids get to do something they want.. it doesn't have to be the exact same thing. Just explain the situation to them. You're going to be raising incredibly entitled kids if you don't do this just for an easy life.

Tell him he needs to eat more Brussels sprouts and cabbage to grow fast enough to catch big brother. I bet he will soon quit the tears. I know I did 😂

Of course the bigger one should go on things that the other is not tall enough for , that’s life .

Are you me?? My mother was exactly like this too and I'm sure this is why my sister is now in her late twenties and a huge narcissist who expects to be waited on hand and foot by everyone around her.

I can’t believe this is any kind of issue. I have an older brother and this is the just the way of the world. Younger child sounds annoying and slightly spoilt.