To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

[GentleButter]

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

Ooh, I forgot ‘mash’ potato, ‘pack’ lunch, etc.
Guaranteed to make me want to e-slap whoever wrote them.

Presumably because if you have poor spelling and grammar, you'll get fed up to the back teeth of some smug wanker telling you you're doing it wrong, on every single internet forum out there.

Or do they think they're so special, they'll be the only ones picking on that person's typing? 🙄

Just leave strangers alone to type as they please, as long as their posts are understandable.

No-one cares if you missed your calling as a proof reader or teacher.

No, it doesn't. Loose rhymes with goose, lose rhymes with booze. That particular error is the most annoying one, IMO.

Okay, I know it probably makes me a bad person but poorly spoken grammar just makes me see red. I launched into a tirade at a member of staff who used 'been' rather than 'being' several times in an important email which completely changed its context. Even worse, they were oblivious to what they'd done wrong! I'm getting wound up just thinking about it again.

I only hear it the other way round too but it gives me the rage.
I also loath should off, would off, could off and gifted instead of given. Loads more though.

It's very rude and very arrogant actually.

To the point where MNHQ will delete posts 'correcting' others if their posts are perfectly understandable.

Can you imagine how depressing it must be for that person to feel picked on, on so many different internet forums every time they try to join in a conversation?

It's bound to get to a point where they feel bullied or 'pointed at' every single time.

It's literally none of your business if they've had a poor education or if they have dyslexia for example.

Just leave them alone. You're a random on the internet, you're not going to succeed where all those teachers have apparently failed.

Honest question: if you make the same mistake time and again, why would you not work to correct it? I knew a man who claimed to be incredibly intelligent, yet his spelling and grammar were both very poor. It always annoyed me that I would correct him and he would ignore it: if he were as intelligent as he claimed to be, he should have taken on the corrections and realised his mistake (although he was actually as thick as mince!!)

And what are you doing about your problem?

I suggest you learn coping strategies before you end up on a disciplinary.

All these induce the red mist, as well as the OP's original point.

My mum always said the R stands for rent so you havent bought it, Stuck with me forever haha

Surely to God you must know that some people just simply can't remember all the spelling and grammar rules?

There are people who try all their lives and still can't get it. They know some small minded people think this means they lack intelligence and yet they still can't manage especially when they're typing about a problem and their thoughts are flowing.

Why would you assume they don't work to correct it unless you're one of the aforementioned small minded people?

Just leave them alone unless their mistakes affect you and your life personally.

All I'm doing is giving basic SPAG lessons and having to proof read emails.

I hear you. The internal rage I feel when people say “generally” instead of “genuinely” is enough to make me implode.

“I’m generally upset over that comment.” Arghhhhhh.

Bring/brought vs. buy/bought.

Same thing applies to wary & weary when spoken out loud.

"Back in ten, I need to rest my wary head."
"No, you need to rest your WEARY head!"

My question was 'what are you doing about your problem'?

If you didn't understand it I'll try again.

What are you doing to stop you from being unprofessional by seeing red and launching a tirade on another member of staff?

I would also add people who use swear words as punctuation - especially adults who do it in earshot of young children.

I don't at all agree with the suggestion that anybody who ever swears is only doing so because of a lack of vocabulary - but I do think that people who use a pointless swear word as every second or third word can't be all that bright.

They may think it makes them sound tough and 'street', but it does just make you sound stupid, especially those who don't even realise that they're doing it anymore and can't stop it, however inappropriate the circumstances.

It's not even just swear words, though, as I tend to have the same opinion of people who use 'like' as punctuation, 10 times in every single sentence. Absent genuine special needs, learning difficulties or conditions such as Tourette's, it's just the perfect way to make yourself sound extremely lacking in intelligence.

Wary rhymes with Mary.
Weary rhymes with dreary.

So am I justified in 'hating' you for failing to punctuate speech correctly, something which you keep refusing to acknowledge? Does that seem reasonable to you? Do you think you are deserving of my hatred because of some punctuation errors?

People who say 'I tret myself' instead of 'I treated myself'
Tret isn't a word!

Oh dear. No one says 'should off', 'could off', etc. What they say is 'could of' or 'should of'. If you're going to criticise others for using the word 'of' incorrectly, you should be able to spell it, surely?

I have never heard the usage described in the OP. I find that 'brought' for 'bought' is absolutely endemic in my region of the Midlands, however (e.g. 'I brought the kids some new shoes in Clarks'). I think people genuinely cannot hear the 'r' sound in the words in order to distinguish them.

But people do say 'should off', 'could off', etc.

I think that's what this poster is complaining about (their accents?)

I'm in East London and that's very much how people speak.

I'm in South London, and have never heard anyone say or seen anyone write 'should off'! 'Should of' is an extremely common error, both written and spoken.

Apologies to @luckylavender if that's what they meant, but as I say, I have never come across 'should off' instead of should've, only 'should of'.

I think attitudes like OP's, where they think it's fine to correct others' spelling or grammar in a non-work or school context, come from insecurity. If you are insecure about your ability in some areas, it must feel good to be able to correct others' grammar.

I've never known anyone who's doing well, and happy and confident in themselves, who would correct grammar. They might have an internal eyeroll, we all have those about all sorts of things, but they wouldn't seek to make someone feel like shit just so that they can show the world they know the difference between bought and brought.

And understand the very obvious reason why people may think it's should of. Should off sounds completely different in most accents.