Friend doing my head in

[CocoapuffPuff]

I have a friend staying this week. She us from the USA. She's fab, fun and fucking LOUD.

She's working whilst here, via zoom and I'm so tired of the fucking noise. She's so loud. Shouting, shrieking, etc. The cats are jumpy, I'm longing for some silence and now She's just told me she has a zoom meeting between 1am and 3am.

She's leaving Thursday and I'm so looking forward to the lack of noise.

Why are Americans so bloody loud??? She knows, she's making an effort to dial it back when she remembers but it's not very often that she remembers.

It's not an Aibu really, just an anonymous moan on an anonymous forum to stop myself from exploding. JFC.

Hey, you mention about your zoom call, please do remember that I'll be sleeping at that time, and I'm working tomorrow so be quiet. If not then go outside to the garage where you screecj to your hearts desire you fkin inconsiderate buffoon....

oh BTW I'm going to be hosting the brass band at (insert her sleep time here), I do hope you took the above advice to be quiet at 3am....

Actually, I think it's unreasonable of her to call at those times. I would be annoyed at her in a hotel room next to me if she was loud then, but in my own house, I'd be really naffed off. I think you need to do the 'zombie walk into her room' to embarrass her a little, or alternatively, tell her now that that timing is not acceptable.

Turn off your Wi-Fi. Problem solved.

I'd be tempted to rush in and say 'OMG, your screaming woke me up, are you alright?!!'

Tell her unless that call is silent she cannot do it.

This. Tell her to use the Teams Chat function or sign language. Or interpretative dance or whatever, as long as she doesn’t make any noise.

Yeah she can use the chat function and type her responses.

Otherwise she can fuck off @CocoapuffPuff

I've told her and she's agreed. Thanks, I'm not a zoom user so didn't know that was an option.

Ah good, well done!

what kind of idiot behaves like that in someone else’s home? Is she usually so thoughtless

Not unreasonable about the noise but unreasonable to judge all Americans by your friend.

I used to read an etiquette forum populated by a lot of Americans. One of the things they often said was that the "personal space bubble" was much bigger in America than other places - about six feet. So I always assumed that Americans developed the habit of speaking loudly to project their voices further across the gap as a result.

But even so, she should moderate it when she's not in that situation, and especially in another country.

It's like people who say "I have a loud voice that carries". Well, speak more quietly so that it doesn't then, nobody wants to hear it and it's rude to inflict it on other people.

Lesson learnt. Last time she's invited to stay. Americans are just different

I’d not be letting her stay again, sounds awful.

Go be sanctimonious somewhere else.

You're just confirming my opinion.

If she's actually your friend can you not tell her to keep it down? Especially at 1-3am? Just say something.

AREN'T YOU CHARMING!!!!!!! !!! !!

Oh jeez, this thread took a turn rather quickly 😲

Although some of you are hilarious.

@toomuchfaff oh BTW I'm going to be hosting the brass band at (insert her sleep time here), I do hope you took the above advice to be quiet at 3am....

@PlasticOno Tell her to use the Teams Chat function or sign language. Or interpretative dance or whatever, as long as she doesn’t make any noise.

😂😂😂😂😂

Have done, thanks. I didnt know zoom could be done by text. She's promised to be considerate.

Aren't I?

One of my friends is like this OP - not American but so loud and l always forget until l see her! She knows it as well so why she doesn't lower her voice, l don't know!!