To wonder if people genuinely struggle with comprehension or just enjoy being arseholes?

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The number of examples AIBU throws up every day is getting insane.

OP asks ‘I bought a new dress for £200 but the shade of green clashes with my shoes. I tried to take it back but the shop said it had been worn. It hasn’t and it still had the tags on. AIBU to think I should get the dress refunded?’

And the replies come:

’YABU. You can’t wear clothes then expect to get a refund!’

’YABU. Why didn’t you take your shoes with you to try it on?’

’YABU. I’d never spend £200 on a dress. See if you can get something in a sale?’

’YANBU. If you’ve bought green, for example, there’s a high risk of clashing and this is what returns policies are for! Go back and speak to a manager.’

’YABU. Why did you buy green knowing they’d clash?’

’YABU to buy something from a sale without speaking to a manager first’

’YABU. You previously posted you prefer trousers’.

It’s mad.

Given the average reading age of UK adults is age 9 - I would say that reading comprehension may well be an issue.

I have thought for some time that MN is a terrible space for anyone in real distress or who is being abused. It would not surprise me if the way some posters hound some posters has led to a woman killing herself.
There are some names when they appear I just think - oh no you! Just here to be a shit again. Why the hell they are not banned I have no idea.

Apologies. It was early and I hadn't slept. More context. By here I mean MN and more specifically AIBU. By both I mean the people who just seem to not comprehend. Not malicious or deliberately doing. But the other ones who KNOW what they are doing, such as picking on the bought v brought. Or one thread I was reading about a woman leaving a vile partner. Mentioned her child. Soon after informed the child was an adult. And then pages of people who (despite it being pointed out MULTIPLE times) kept piling on her for putting her 'child' in harms way and then just generally attacking her, her parenting etc. That one riled me up.

I know I shouldn't get riled up but some people come on looking for genuine help and advice only to get attacked from someone else's armchair.

And listening apparently
Just seen an Instagram video of a recipe which is 3 ingredients
The recipe is in the caption and the person says in the reel "stuffed with peanut butter"

First comment "what's that in them?"

I remember that one. The OP clarified the age of the "child" very early on, which was 25. Said "child" also owned her own home and lived with a boyfriend.

So many twats clearly had not bothered reading her posts, or had the reading comprehension of a gnat. Some were even jumping in saying that the "child's" father should apply for full custody!!

I think that post took the biscuit for such bollocks.

YABU to use the phrase ‘It’s mad’ as that is offensive to people with mental illness. I don’t have a mental illness myself but I absolutely know that those that do would definitely be offended so I’m going to White Knight on their behalf so I can look virtuous.

Also, have you considered that the shop person might be autistic? All shitty behaviour is always because the person is autistic and not at all because they’re just a bit of a nob.

Also……You DO realise that green is not even on trend right now?

I do, and don't find it offensive. Just saying like, it's not a blanket thing. 'it's mad' is sort of common parlance.

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I remember the one with the 25-year-old daughter. By the end of that thread I was sure people were doing it on purpose. I almost started 'AIBU to ask why you fuckers don't RTFT?'

I have been on posts where I swear every fourth comment is me posting something like - OP has already said her DD is an adult, so Social Services will not be interested if OP is neglecting her.

Of course, on the rare occasion one of these people deign to reply, their response to the outrageous suggestion that they should read the thread before replying is that they are far too busy and important to do that and people take MN much too seriously. Enraging!

I'd have applauded that thread.

I don't think enough people berate these aberrant posters. It's often left up to one or two of us.

We should have an agreed response and bombard the arseholes with it en masse.

Always followed up by the token poster who says ‘you sound like hard work’

My DD and I both have mental health issues. I absolutely know that neither of us would be at all bothered by the use of "it's mad" as a phrase.

I was just about to say that there is always at least one post that berates the OP for not considering that someone else's bad behaviour is because of mental health issues/ADHD/autism/you don't know what's going on in their life, which is always seen as a get out for being really rude.

My post was satire. I don’t actually think that.

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All the online doctors 🙄 I was confidently berated on here about my medical condition im prepared to accept that a "dr" won't know my medical condition off the top of their head indeed my Dr has to look things up but Google is free and why derail? It was pointless

YABVU, the shop said no and no is a complete sentence!

Or they try to outdo the OP in the misery stakes.

"Oh, your mother slapped you across the face? Well my mother is DEAD - I wish she was still around to slap me!"

NOT EVERTHING IS ABOUT YOU, SUSAN!

The ones that derail the thread to have their own side argument absolutely wind me up. I commented once that an otherwise very interesting thread had been derailed by all the pointless irrelevant arguing and I got told off. Cheeky fuckers.