Would you be put off? Man uses a lot of slang

[Fedupofwindyweather]

It's not a dialect thing, I know people can't help the way they speak. It's a man who's in his 30s but uses a lot of slang like 'innit' as if he's a 17 year old boy.
Or 'alright lad what's happening ', stuff like that.
Not sure if I'm being overly judgemental?

THIS!!

I grew up in London, so I am used to this. At work, I do occasionally use slang words like "init" but it tends to just come out but only and I mostly can code switch. My ex, children's dad, is in his early 30's, whole use of language and vocabulary is slang. He switches this off at work but when we used to attend parent's evening together or when the children had birthday parties. He would just speaking in slang and I'm not going to lie, I was slightly embarrassed. I do think that if you are in your late 20's plus- it's fine to use it here and there but to continue speaking slang like it's a language seems an immature to me.

I would be very embarrassed for anyone to know I'm dating someone who speaks like that. He sounds so uneducated.

I actually love any regional dialect and accent. I love the variety and creativity and I find my own really homely and comforting.
I like writers who use it, like Irvine Welsh and Roddy Doyle too.

So accent, slang and dialect wouldn’t put me off unless he was putting it on, or acting like a road man at 37.

Wouldn’t mind if it’s natural for him, the area he’s from. I wouldn’t like teenage slang though

This was what I meant, my phone autocorrected to crappit. Although maybe we can find a use for that.

Put off definitely. I’m even put off with man who swear let alone speaking like that. It sounds uneducated.

2 b honest I dont no wot the problem is m8.

And that is exactly why I enjoy using my childhood accent during discussions regarding Medieval ecclesiastical architecture, the works of Tomás Luis de Victoria and the theorised contributory factors behind the Late Bronze Age Collapse in the Eastern Mediterranean and Levantine civilisations; the cognitive dissonance visible in the faces of people who purport to be of above average intelligence.

Fun, innit?

That’s not intelligence. I’ll be put off by this too, because it’s ridiculously show off.

No sorry it's a thing now. From hereon crappit will be a small irritating thing used with affection 'this is my cat, he is a right little crappit'

I'm sure I'll learn to live with the pain somehow. Maybe whilst cuddling my degree(s) that I managed to obtain whilst in possession of a Stupid Uneducated Person (TM) accent.

I'm from London and all my friends talk like that. We're not young either!

I don’t think it is classism at all.

My siblings and I were raised in a council estate, 5 kids, one wage, parents who left school with no qualifications, and if I am out with friends or down the pub I speak in a very broad Scottish accent/dialect.

But it is very toned down, definitely not posh, when speaking in work, or outside work with colleagues, to parents/grandparents, and in my family home to my own dc.

Both ways of speaking is authentic, done naturally depending on the situation and who I am talking too. Similar to not swearing in front of grandparents or children.

I'd be put off as well OP, - if it's not ignorance or a lack of education, then it's wearyingly adolescent. Neither is sexy.

Me too. People assume a Dorset accent = thick and uneducated.

My mother said we could use dialect but not slang. Unfortunately, I didn't know the difference. I did know which words I shouldn't use in class, which covered both. I mostly found out which words were dialect when I went away from home and people down the pub didn't know what I was talking about.

And that's where my line would be - is he able to communicate successfully? Can he code switch so that in a formal situation, he mostly leaves out the slang? And is he happy to talk about word origins, meanings and use? (That last one might just be me, to be fair...)

I supervised a group of students where one of them had a habit of saying “innit” at the end of practically every sentence. Whenever he did, the rest of the group would respond “Isn’t it what?”. After a week or two of looking perplexed at the question, the penny dropped and he stopped saying innit at the end of every sentence.

Do you mean he says innit instead of isn't it in a sentence? As in 'the local Tesco is open now isn't it?' Or just say innit randomly for no good reason as in 'No, that Tesco closed down a year ago innit'. If it's the latter I would block him immediately.

On a side note, these are some of my favourite lyrics. I often find myself humming them. It's also the outro to Gamble and Crosby podcast.

We've got some
Half price cracked ice
And miles and miles of carpet tiles
TVs, eep freeze
And David Bowie LPs
Ball games, gold chains, what's-names
And at a push
Some Trevor Francis track suits
From a mush in Shepherds Bush
Bush, Bush, Bush, Bush, Bush, Bush, Bush....

Is he from Essex/East London? If so, I imagine he was brought up surrounded by it.

I'm from there too. I work for a big 4 consultancy and know my accent means I get judged. I'm often underestimated because of it which in a competitive role can be good as people don't pay me much attention and then I deliver top performance! That may sound like bragging but it's reality. I like to thing it's playing a blinder 😉

I have no issue with accents and local terms in fact I like them but someone putting on a fake accent or writing in slang would be a huge no from me.
I also can’t stand text speak, very poor grammar or spelling.
We all make our own judgements so it depends what is too annoying for you.

Sorry but it would be a no from me! Instant ick

I am not bothered by slang no. Caring about slang is snobby and classist. If he's a nice guy I don't know why you would be bothered by slang.

You obviously find it offputting. It doesn't matter whether anyone else does.

Personally, I don't really care how someone speaks provided it comes naturally to them. If people are putting it on, I hate it.

So basically they were bullying him over something completely harmless.

If I'd been supervising the group I'd have told them to grow up and accept other people's speech patterns.