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Is it ever OK to report anyone?

234 replies

PassingStranger · 07/04/2024 11:49

Following on from the TV licence thread is it ever OK to report for benefit fraud, car tax, TV licence, etc or does it always come back and bit you on the bum?

Would you be scared to do it?

OP posts:
Crumpleton · 08/04/2024 19:47

Nowhere in my post, which I stated that it was self inflicted did I suggest that anyone was committing benifit fraud...
Or anything about holidays...

Typical of a handful of MN's
you yourself have every right to turn an observation into something else, write what you will, but you have absolutely no right to say it's what I'm suggesting or even thinking especially when I haven't.

taxguru · 08/04/2024 19:51

Universalsnail · 08/04/2024 12:05

I don't know why people can't seem to understand nuance surrounding severity of thing to be reported in this thread.

Grassing is wrong unless the thing you are grassing about is very serious where people are at direct risk of harm such as child abuse is not as hard a concept to understand as some people in this thread are making it out to be. I don't understand why people are having such a hard time with this concept.

Edited

"Grassing" is what happens in school playgrounds!

Universalsnail · 08/04/2024 19:51

Crumpleton · 08/04/2024 19:47

Nowhere in my post, which I stated that it was self inflicted did I suggest that anyone was committing benifit fraud...
Or anything about holidays...

Typical of a handful of MN's
you yourself have every right to turn an observation into something else, write what you will, but you have absolutely no right to say it's what I'm suggesting or even thinking especially when I haven't.

Well then you clearly did not read the posts I was replying to then because you have replied to something without the context of the post you have replied to which was relevant to the conversation

pointythings · 08/04/2024 19:52

@Crumpleton but how many threads have there been on MN where an OP has been terrified to go out shopping or for a meal whilst off sick, for fear of being reported? Not long ago there was one where OP was legitimately off sick but was seen on the sidelines of a football match where their DC was playing, was reported by a 'colleague' and there was a whole stressful investigation. And a lot of posters sided with the employer.

The fact is that if you are ill and on benefits in the UK, you are subject to the scrutiny of malicious curtain twitchers and the DWP will come down on you like a tonne of bricks if there's a report.

Universalsnail · 08/04/2024 19:55

XenoBitch · 08/04/2024 19:44

My DP is facing homelessness, and I can't move him in with me as I would lose my UC entitlement (and 100% relying on a bloke is bad).... so if I knew for certain that someone was claiming to live alone and claiming benefits on the back of that, but wasn't, yes I would report them.
I am too scared to have my DP stay over more than once a week (yes, I know there is no such thing as a limit), but I have already heard my gossipy neighbour talk about us.

I am a stickler for rules.... and I would report because I pay out of pocket for things that some people just think is optional when it is not.

I also nearly reported my own father for drink driving. He picked up me and my mum from an airport and was steaming drunk. My mum talked me out of it.

You wouldn't be scared of having your partner stay at your house though if you didn't live in a culture where people are reporting people they suspect of benefit fraud when they might not even be committing benefit fraud.

It's this idea that it's acceptable to be reporting on people in this way that means you are too worried to do something you are literally allowed to do.

Personally I'd rather live in a society where people don't try and shit on each other by reporting people and therefore people on benefits don't have to worry in this way about being reported for no reason.

trekking1 · 09/04/2024 00:41

XenoBitch · 08/04/2024 19:44

My DP is facing homelessness, and I can't move him in with me as I would lose my UC entitlement (and 100% relying on a bloke is bad).... so if I knew for certain that someone was claiming to live alone and claiming benefits on the back of that, but wasn't, yes I would report them.
I am too scared to have my DP stay over more than once a week (yes, I know there is no such thing as a limit), but I have already heard my gossipy neighbour talk about us.

I am a stickler for rules.... and I would report because I pay out of pocket for things that some people just think is optional when it is not.

I also nearly reported my own father for drink driving. He picked up me and my mum from an airport and was steaming drunk. My mum talked me out of it.

How do your neighbors know you are on benefits? Mine don't even know my name!

Springchickenonion · 09/04/2024 05:24

I'm more confused at why people seen to broadcast their financial situations. Its no one else's business

XenoBitch · 09/04/2024 16:59

trekking1 · 09/04/2024 00:41

How do your neighbors know you are on benefits? Mine don't even know my name!

I never speak to them, so no idea. Bu I have heard them talk about me and benefits so they must just assume.

Givemeallthecats · 21/05/2024 08:47

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