Is it weird to WhatsApp guy I met in park

[Saturdaymorningsinthenineties]

Last week during school holidays I took my young Dd to a local park with playground, it’s a quiet one where many don’t go. Another little girl was there and Dd began playing with her, her dad then came up and was really friendly and great to talk to.
I live in another country and he spoke great English, although from a different country to the country we both live in now. Our DD’s are the same age and we had a good discussion about schools/life where we are and agreed on many of the issues about schooling etc. He was really interesting and easy to talk to (as have other mums I’ve met at playgrounds etc been to) and the girls got on great. As we were leaving I said maybe we should swap numbers, mainly concerning possible future plans he may have to homeschool with some other parents he’s met, it’s unlikely to happen for my Dd, but is an option depending on how her first year in primary goes in September. He was very open to it and said they would be there every morning that week. We didn’t end up being able to go again and it’s back to school next week.
Should I WhatsApp him? But say what? I feel a bit rude to have not messaged, but also it seems a bit strange? I also never ask for peoples number and don’t understand why I did really

what is it you want from him?

What would you want to say to him?

@IncompleteSenten I don’t really want anything from him? It just seemed really natural to swap numbers, but now I’m wondering if that’s weird? The girls got on so well and we agreed on so many things regarding the schooling here, it was good to hear that from someone else. Now it just feels a bit odd to text…and say what? But also feel mean to have said it and not turned up etc

This, do you want the kids to meet do you want to widen your social circle can you not wait until school starts again say hi . If he wanted to chat he would have also messaged.

@InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow I don’t think I’d want him to say anything, just feel a bit rubbish taking number and not texting?
Should I just text to say it was nice to meet I’m and the girls played great and if he goes fine the homeschooling route in the future to contact me or put me in touch with the others…and leave it at that?

It’s not clear from your OP - are you both single? Or was it purely about the kids?

Is he married, in a relationship, are you, because that would determine my next move...

Did you fancy him and want to takes things further, was it just for play dates with the two girls?

@Mrsjayy Theyre not at the same school, one close by though.
He doesn’t have my number as I just wrote his down, hence me feeling bad that I didn’t at least send a follow up message

Both married/relationships, both talked about our other halves

Don’t fancy him at all, but just really enjoyed talking to him..hard to explain

It’s unusual but it’s not weird. Often in these situations you get 2 people hesitating. Message him and see whats happens. Expect nothing and you may get a nice surprise. If not, there’s nothing lost.

I think he was maybe just being chatty you just met them maybe see if they are at the park again. I wouldn't WhatsApp a random I had just met unless I wanted the kids to play. The rest imo seems a bit full on.

You are over-thinking it. If you want to see him because you are both single, or if your DD needs the friendship, then text "Hi, aorry for delayed mesaage it's SatAM here. We will be at the playground on Sunday,l 10am, just letting you know in case you and DD are free."
If you don't want to meet, just leave it. You aren't home-schooling, so don't waste his time on that.

Did you mention him to your husband?

Maybe just message him letting him know when you are heading back to that park, in case the girls can play again?

What are you talking about?! Of course you don’t have to message him just because you took his number.

If he was that keen for you to message him he would have asked for your number. He is absolutely not sitting there wondering why you haven’t messaged him. He will not have given this a second’s thought.

I would let this one go

I wouldn't happy my husband gave his number to a random woman in the park, so it could cause alsorts of problems.

Given your further updates I would leave it.

To be so interested in speaking to another guy that you randomly ask for his number in the park, and then think this intensely thinking about it.... there could be trouble on the horizon.

@MrsSkylerWhite I told him
and said what we talked about regarding schools etc here, he wasn’t that interested tbh, same as if I’d met a mum I suppose

Why are you so into it? Don't message him.
You're not single. Your kids don't go to the same school, and you talking about how he is home schooling but you are not so you should talk about that? It sounds like you fancy him.
Sorry, but who gives that much thought to a stranger in the park?

As my daughter would say “don’t deep it”. Maybe drop him a a breezy text letting him know the next time you will be in the park in case him or his wife are around with the DD so the girls could play together again. That way makes clear you don’t have designs on him.

It seemed a perfectly natural thing to swap numbers and other mums have done this before and I’ve not thought it weird, it’s just because it’s a man, which seems a bit ridiculous
We live in a large ex pat community so it’s fairly normal to do this.
I have no attraction to him, but I have been thinking on and off about our conversations and no idea why! We agreed on so many points here and he was interesting & intelligent I think. As much as I love all my mum friends, this conversation was more interesting.

His wife won’t like and neither would your husband. You shouldn’t be this bored

I hope he didn’t think I had designs on him 😬cringey, it just felt like a natural thing to do for the kids and because we got on well, now o feel embarrassed but also rude not to just acknowledge it by sending a quick text, then leaving it there

You're not single and neither is he so forget it