Is it weird to WhatsApp guy I met in park

[Saturdaymorningsinthenineties]

Last week during school holidays I took my young Dd to a local park with playground, it’s a quiet one where many don’t go. Another little girl was there and Dd began playing with her, her dad then came up and was really friendly and great to talk to.
I live in another country and he spoke great English, although from a different country to the country we both live in now. Our DD’s are the same age and we had a good discussion about schools/life where we are and agreed on many of the issues about schooling etc. He was really interesting and easy to talk to (as have other mums I’ve met at playgrounds etc been to) and the girls got on great. As we were leaving I said maybe we should swap numbers, mainly concerning possible future plans he may have to homeschool with some other parents he’s met, it’s unlikely to happen for my Dd, but is an option depending on how her first year in primary goes in September. He was very open to it and said they would be there every morning that week. We didn’t end up being able to go again and it’s back to school next week.
Should I WhatsApp him? But say what? I feel a bit rude to have not messaged, but also it seems a bit strange? I also never ask for peoples number and don’t understand why I did really

just message him and suggest a play date at the park. Jenny has been asking about playing out with Susie again, i wondered if you / your wife would be up for a play date on Saturday.

Just sent it, I didn’t arrange play date, but said we met at the park and to let me know how his girl gets on at school etc

If you want the girls to play again maybe.

But I'd worry it comes across that you fancy him. Don't be too surprised if he rocks up with his wife the next time.

I wouldn't have contacted him, but it's not a big deal. I would expect his wife to come and check you out if he does get in touch to arrange a playdate though.

@Needanewname42 Really? Wish I hadn’t sent it now

Don’t be ridiculous. You are adults not teenagers at school.

@TimeandMotion Yes, surely he wouldn’t assume I’d fancy him 🙄

I think that you should leave him alone. He didn't ask for your number did he?

Wow, that's shameless! Might as well have just said you can't stop thinking about him, random texts about nothing add up to the same message.

You've confessed you have a husband, why are you sniffing round after this bloke? Either fix whatever's wrong with your relationship, or separate, work on a new relationship only after you've ended the old one.

Not shameless in my book. Sensible starts with the same letter though.

I might be wrong, but I've never exchanged numbers with a mum at a park either.
I'm just thinking what I'd think if the roles were reversed and a Dad asked for my number at a park.

Hopefully he doesn't think like me!

It's very sad that so many people here can't imagine a man and woman having a friendship. I have plenty of male friends, some are single, some are in relationships. My partner also has plenty of female friends, again some single others in relationships. Sometimes I catch up with friends one to one, sometimes as a couple, sometimes in a group. I've never met a new friend and automatically assumed they fancy me just because we agree to keep in touch.

It isn't the m/w friendship that most posters are commenting on its the intensity of the op wanting to contact a random man/parent she doesn't know and the overthinking that she's upset a random she met at the park.

Has he replied?

Message him as you suggested above. It's a bit unbalanced to have his number and he not have yours, so messaging will even that up.Keep it cool and matter of fact.

I would. But I'd set very clear boundaries from the outset. Just say Hi it's @Saturdaymorningsinthenineties . We met in the park the other week. Our girls got on and I really enjoyed talking to you. Wondered if your family fancied coming over to ours for Sunday lunch sometime, or meeting up for a picnic together in the park. It would be nice for the girls to see each other again and to meet your other half, if you'd all be up for that.

I think when you get on with people it's good to make a gesture of friendship. Brits are so uptight about this but many other cultures aren't.

I would text and ask would he and/or his wife like to bring their daughter over for a playdate since they got on so well. Or meet at the park again. Otherwise just leave it.

Not imo.
He's a random you met once in your life. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

Ah. I see you messaged.

Tbh, a better message would have been inviting him and his wife round to yours for a coffee with you and your husband while the children played.

Yours was one of those texting for no reason texts iyswim. If anything is going to make it seem to him like you're maybe sniffing around, it's that sort of thing.

I think the reason you're second guessing it is because of opinions like those of pp's on this thread who think because you're a woman and he's a man you MUST only be talking because you wanna share each other. And your partners both won't like it because they must be as possessive as the pp's. I know loads of women who meet at parks and swap numbers for the kids to play. It's not a big deal.

Shag* not share

I've known enough men to know how many of them think any woman who is so much as polite to them fancies them.

Just message him. Say lovely to meet him and unfortunately you didn't make it back to the park again this week.
Say it would be great to get the girls together again soon

I find it a bit strange that you're still thinking about your conversations with him a week later. I'm not sure I'd like if it DH got a random woman's number and was thinking about their conversations this much a week down the line, I have to say.

I also think if he was really interested in swapping numbers, he'd have put yours in his phone at the time.

No, don't message. Wait until school starts and organise a group park visit. I'd be fuming if my DH swapped numbers with another woman! Maybe that's just me.