Caught husband watching babe station...

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Just that really. I'm upstairs asleep (we have a 6mo DS who does NOT sleep so I go to bed a little earlier to try and get some sleep in). I wake to him crying at 12:45am and DH is not in bed nor did he respond to DS. I know this means he's asleep on the sofa (usually is).

Anyway, I can hear the baby monitor beeping to say the battery is low so I go downstairs and he's fallen asleep and babe station is on our flat screen tv bold as anything. (I suppose he couldn't have been that interested if he was asleep?😂).

I was a bit shocked he was so bold to put it on the lounge tv. And of course, I did the very British thing of grabbing the baby monitor (which was RIGHT next to him) and tiptoeing upstairs. For some reason I felt embarrassed especially if he woke up!

Am I bothered? Unsure. Not really - I know he watched porn etc but it bothers me that he was so open with it. Having it on our family tv is a little much?Not very discreet. We'd also had sex earlier in the evening so it makes me feel as if he obviously wasn't satisfied to go downstairs and pop that on.

Question is - do I continue to pretend nothing happened or do I say something to him? It's literally still on downstairs 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lol it's really not something I could get het up about.

It's less sexy than programmes like Love Island for example 😳

@BettyShagter haha I feel more awkward than upset. She was showing a bit more than what you'd see on love island but it's not like I don't think he doesn't look at other woman!

I suppose like many women I'm a little more self conscious about my body since DS (I'm COVERED in stretch marks) and we'd had sex just a few hours before.

But I suppose you're right & it's harmless! I probably won't ever have the courage to say I saw it to him anyway haha

Eeeew.
Couldn't you have switched channels to somewhere thatcsells vacuum cleaners?
And yes, no harm in a snarky little remark but only once both of you are fully awake.

Is Babestation not cam shows? I’ve never heard of it, just googled it now.

Nope.

It's a TV channel that used to do interactive phone-ins, but is now pretty much just advertising for premium rate numbers. They usually have a partially naked woman on trying and failing to be "sexy" to entice you to phone.

The only reason I know this is because it's part of my TV package, and I've recently developed a habit of falling asleep on top of the remote in the wee hours. Honest 😂

is it a dedicated TV station or is ot one of those that it switches to babestation at 2am after the real telly had finished? did he fall asleep watching Knight rider and you found him sleeping in front of babe rider?

Don't think there's anything on there I'd be bothered about? Money making rather than actual porn, he'd find more on porn hub.

I think many people have flicked through all the channels and ended up here out of curiosity (I have!). Based on what I've seen, I really wouldn't be too bothered. To me, it looks like a noughties-style TV version of OnlyFans... From what I saw, it appears to be a 'Katy Price-like' cringe-worthy girl on TV that you call up and chat to in exchange for money.

As others have said, you get worse on shows like Game of Thrones!

(Although I might check (joint account?) to see if late-night calls have been made, as they're no doubt expensive... but I'd be surprised if he had. I think this was purely a flicking-through curiosity thing.

I came back to the TV switched onto GB News the other day after the remote had been sat on, that’s probably worse than Babe Station in this house, could the same have happened?

BabeStation is incredibly tame and not at all something I’d worry about! It’s also one of those things that’s kind of compellingly odd and badly made, like those channels where people phone a premium number to try and guess a word or something (which will always turn out to be a word that is unheard of). Frankly I could probably fall asleep in front of it myself and I’m a straight woman!

Do you have other children who could have come downstairs and seen it? If so I'd mention it in case it is a habit and it happens again.

It all depends. If you are OK with women being exploited for men's sexual gratification then it's fine. If not, not.

Nope, just our six months old son so alll good there!

Thanks all. I decided not to mention it but he seems to be extra sweet today. I think he woke up, realised the baby monitor was gone so knew I must have seen it 😂

It's now this unspoken thing between us. But I'll be kind and save him the embarrassment (I know DH and know he'd be embarrassed)!

This would be a deal breaker for me but I have a no porn boundary in my relationship I set at the beginning and he knows that. If he was so disrespectful to me to have it on in the lounge we'd be done. It would give me such an ick.

But if you don't have that and you don't think it bothers you then I'd probably not even mention it or I'd tell him I came down and could he atleast have some decency to be discreet about it.

My Samsung keeps turning on with GB news and I've no idea how to stop it! I've never watched it, not would I want to! I understand the pain you suffered!

That's an old classic, very 1995. It almost seems innocent in comparison to what's around in the #pornculture. I can see why you'd be annoyed.

I'm pretty sure some channels turn on to babestation after a certain time. So it's very possible that he fell asleep watching something else. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he was watching it to get his kicks. Especially if he's slept through it.

It's not porn. As per a pp you'd see as much flesh on Love Island.

Not to sound very naive but is it possible that babestatjon came on after something else? I know it's a late night programme so surely there isn't a whole channel dedicated to it

God, that’s nothing. It isn’t even porn. Plenty of women have to deal with husbands who’ve been looking up escort agencies. You see those threads on mumsnet all the time. Others find the police at their door because their partner has been viewing indecent images of children, or is wanted for historic child abuse, and so on. Compared to that, babe station seems like Telly Tubbies.

I have learnt something today. I thought basestation was something from the last century, or was that the one that a politician tried to claim on expenses about a decade ago?

I'm not saying watching babestatjon is a big deal but people are allowed to have boundaries with their partners beyond not wanting them to commit crimes. Saying "at least he wasn't watching child sexual abuse material" is about the lowest bar to set when it comes to expectations.

I can't get over how very low the bar is for men! He's not looking at indecent images of children-well, what a prince!

This!!

It's perfectly acceptable for me to take a moment, pause and decide what boundary I have in my relationship??

But instead I should be glad he isn't paying for prostitution or a sex offender 🫠

I wouldn't worry about it, that's blokes for ya just next time after you've had abit 😉 bang magic Mike on... say ohh look at them,what you think of them moves love 😂